[knaveman]

Should I ever feel bad for being myself? I lost out on a woman because I was myself, does that make me wrong or do I just need to work on things. I think that if someone doesn't like me for me then they aren't right for me in the first place.

[JohnnyBlaze]

To answer your question, no, don't feel bad. Are you gonna lose out on more chicks that way? Yep. But it has nothing to do with your image. Some girls like nice guys, some like bad boys, some like jocks and some like artists. You're not going to be what every girl wants, so just be you and keep looking for a chick that digs that. (Of course, I'll be the first to admit it's easier said than done.)

Besides, keeping a girl happy takes enough dedication as it is. Would you really want to work on keeping her happy and put up a full-time front at the same time?

[Suiyobi]

knaveman,

I think it depends on the extent of "being yourself". For instance, if "being yourself" equates to being a total jackass or being completely shy then you're most likely going to lose the girl eventually. There has to be a balance, or at the very least, you must display your best qualities every now and then to the girl in spite of being yourself. That way, she'll respect you for who you are instead of getting turned off for who you are.

I admit, I have this problem of coming off as "a nice guy" but once a girl gets to know me she'll realize that I'm rather flirtatious (maybe even borderline perverted) but so far I haven't gotten slapped for "being me". It works, but only if I have the courage to just tell a girl I like her in some way... dammit, I need to work on that lol.