So my gf broke up with me 6 months ago ending a year and half relationship, and I admit I reacted pretty badly... like depressive/ clingy and attempting to try to establish a friendship almost immediately afterwards.
Eventually, I snapped out of it and so I just let it go and tried to move on for the past 4-5 months. Anyways, I'm back from college (living about a half hour away in dorm) for the summer and I just saw her at a social event. It was a little awkward at first, but we had some short conversation "how are you? what are you up to nowadays? etc.
So...I ended up asking her if she had time for coffee or lunch sometime
and she said yes, sometime next week
As far as I know, she isn't seeing anyone
And a part of me wants to try again with her, and the other doesn't know what to think.
Say that I want to try again with her, how should I act around her when I see her the first time in a long time, next week?
Sounds like you're in a pickel then dude. All I've learned from scrolling these forums is that women seem very, very aprehensive about getting back together with relationships that didn't work out.
But I'm also not a fan of all the "NC" topic here either, so I'd say try out coffee, or whatever, bring a friend, bring two friends if you have to. Just try and imagine a sound state of mind though. As in don't jump the shark immediately, in fact, make this like getting coffee with any other friend, because that's really all it should be at this point.
Approach like a friend. Pretend disinterest. Have fun. Pimp yourself out before you go. Be a confident, untouchable prize she can never have. Hahaha...seriously you can't go wrong. Expect nothing from her.
So I had coffee with my ex
I found out that she just recently entered a relationship with another guy
I have been told that "you can never be just friends with your ex"
I believe that I am over her, but I feel like I will always feel a little something for her.
There are 2 options that I'm thinking about,
1.
if I want to be with her again, do I have to stay out of the "friend zone" ?
I am thinking that it wouldn't be fair to me, her or her new boyfriend if I wanted to become "just friends" again.
Should I just tell her "I care about you alot, always will, but we can't be friends, it wouldn't be fair or healthy for any of us" ?
cause if I stay friends with her, isn't that letting her have her cake and eating it to?
2. Or, I try to preserve a good friendship and hope that she likes being around me more than the other guy
...what do you think?
Last edited by bigsadpanda; 30th June 2008 at 8:33 PM.
Hell no, you're not acquaintances. You're nothing. Act like a stranger. Say hi, be aloof. Pretend that she's your sister. Owned in the face is how you should treat her.
Lol actually the 'you can never be friends with an ex' thing might be partially true, as my ex ended up chasin my round the kitchen table last night tryin to kiss me! lol! I genuinely thought we had a great 'just friends' thing goin on so was very surprised (tho I admit the chemistry was always good but I dont want anythin but friendship from him...I just dont think of him as a romantic match anymore!-the friendship is great tho)
...lol....it was a funny moment...he's lucky we such good freakin friends else he'd have got a serious slap for that
Lol actually the 'you can never be friends with an ex' thing might be partially true, as my ex ended up chasin my round the kitchen table last night tryin to kiss me! lol! I genuinely thought we had a great 'just friends' thing goin on so was very surprised (tho I admit the chemistry was always good but I dont want anythin but friendship from him...I just dont think of him as a romantic match anymore!-the friendship is great tho)
...lol....it was a funny moment...he's lucky we such good freakin friends else he'd have got a serious slap for that
Sounds to me like he wants more and the friendship is a way to get it from you. The second he realizes you aren't going any further, he will walk away from the friendship.
You can bank on it.
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