Hi everyone, i've been going around and i stumbled upon this site. I'm hurting really bad. I've done so many things wrong. I know i should break all ties, i begged, cried, lost a lot of weight, for two weeks for her back.
I've done so much, I drove her to school everyday and home, stayed by her side in the enmergency room for hours twice, plan her a romantic picnic for her 18th birthday, celebrated her graduation for her. I did everything a girl would call romantic.. But she left me for being insecure when she goes clubbing with her friends. She said she wanted to leave me 5 months ago too.. is it too late for a NC? or should i find someone better..
she said i did all the stuff i mention above because i wanted to, and it was not her fault i did all that.. she said she has no once of feeling for me, or when i talk to her, she gives me the cold shoulder. its too late to have her back huh?
Hi everyone, i've been going around and i stumbled upon this site. I'm hurting really bad. I've done so many things wrong. I know i should break all ties, i begged, cried, lost a lot of weight, for two weeks for her back.
I've done so much, I drove her to school everyday and home, stayed by her side in the enmergency room for hours twice, plan her a romantic picnic for her 18th birthday, celebrated her graduation for her. I did everything a girl would call romantic.. But she left me for being insecure when she goes clubbing with her friends. She said she wanted to leave me 5 months ago too.. is it too late for a NC? or should i find someone better..
she said i did all the stuff i mention above because i wanted to, and it was not her fault i did all that.. she said she has no once of feeling for me, or when i talk to her, she gives me the cold shoulder. its too late to have her back huh?
Are you a bad boyfriend?
Hate to break it to you but, you're not a boyfriend at all. You're an ex-boyfriend. I would think about what lessons you can take from this relationship and move on.
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Yea, a lot of people said i was a good boyfriend too.. If you dont mind reading this, i'll spill everything:
We met each other at work, i liked her and she knew it. we started going out and i'd surprise her by picking her up, bought her a small gift just because i love you. During christmas, i got her what she wanted the most and saved all the money i had from work to get it for her. then her birthday came by and i posted a bullitin on a tree to tell her to come down the hill from her school, she followed it and there was a picnic for her. for her graduation, she only has her mom and her since her dad is up in canada working. So i took her out with my friends and family and we celebrated her birthday. For valentines, we bought each other a ring on a necklace. There were time when she got extremely sick that i dropped everything at work to take her to the enmergency room. boy was my boss pissed off. for our 1 yr, i took her to a romantic dinner and gave her tokidoki present. after the dinner, i took her to the christmas lights near city hall. The only thing i wanted from her was a smile. I did anything she wanted me to do, as long i got a smile from her. Was i being too nice? what happened..
My opinion is you gave her everything she always wanted and sometimes, most the time, women get bored with that. You mentioned you did everything she wanted you to do, not good. You weren't a challenge and you didn't do your own thing. I believe in romance and special somethings but it sounds like you catered to her far too much. Yes in this case there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. I have learned that first hand. You're young. Take it easy the next time pull back a little bit. What did she do for you?
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So i gave too much.. She's there for me when i'm stressed out at work, helps me through college. She showed me how to do new things. I cant believe being too nice is so bad...
Yea, a lot of people said i was a good boyfriend too.. If you dont mind reading this, i'll spill everything:
We met each other at work, i liked her and she knew it. we started going out and i'd surprise her by picking her up, bought her a small gift just because i love you. During christmas, i got her what she wanted the most and saved all the money i had from work to get it for her. then her birthday came by and i posted a bullitin on a tree to tell her to come down the hill from her school, she followed it and there was a picnic for her. for her graduation, she only has her mom and her since her dad is up in canada working. So i took her out with my friends and family and we celebrated her birthday. For valentines, we bought each other a ring on a necklace. There were time when she got extremely sick that i dropped everything at work to take her to the enmergency room. boy was my boss pissed off. for our 1 yr, i took her to a romantic dinner and gave her tokidoki present. after the dinner, i took her to the christmas lights near city hall. The only thing i wanted from her was a smile. I did anything she wanted me to do, as long i got a smile from her. Was i being too nice? what happened..
What happened is that you made her the center of your universe while she was still trying to decide just how much she liked you. When you do that, it kills the interest level pretty quickly. It puts a lot of mental pressure on her for one thing, because she now feels like she has to like you just as much as you like her. Also, it's a power imbalance. She sees you as weaker than her when you do everything for her. Being nice is good, but she doesn't want you to make her your everything -- not until at least you've spent a great 6 months together. She wants to see that you have a sense of self, a spine.
I hate to use this old cliche, because it sucks, but it's true in your case. You are young and the world is your oyster! You can and will find better, and next time try your best not to be so insecure. it is not an attractive feature to anyone.
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How could this love, ever changing, never change the way I feel."
Leia took the words right out of my mouth!! Im glad you didnt do that but trust me on this there are 1000's of them that do this.. and they seem to like it and think thats its ok.. My ex was one of them crap
most of the women I have seen and been with between the ages of 18-22 are on flings.. this is the age they usually try for an so called upgrade..They make you feel special and like your the one the moment the relationship starts going a bit down or when your having a tough time they look for someone else..
And for me she made some random guy friend who she would talk to 3-4 times a week.. Read all about it here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=150861
Its not just me I have seen people (rather men) complain about this kind of behavior on other forums as well.
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Am I a bad boyfriend?
Im glad you didnt do that but trust me on this there are 1000's of them that do this.. and they seem to like it and think thats its ok.. My ex was one of them crap 
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