[Leos24Rule]

I was with my ex for 5 months. Everything was going swell until he was about to be shipped out to Japan for 3 yrs with the Army. So after giving much thought to our relationship I thought it was best to end things. I broke up with him b/c I don't want to go to Japan, didn't see longevity, and didn't want to be in a long distance relationship.
I broke up with him Jan.'08 and in the end of March before leaving to Japan in 2 wks met someone and is now annoucing his engagement this month--all of which I found out on myspace. I just can't believe it; we talked about marriage- all subjects he brought up.
Though to pass the time I'm finishing up school & dating. I'm obviously not completely over him and miss him much. Then I think well maybe this girl was a rebound that he happened to "fall in love with", is desperate, falls in love quickly, tryna make me jealous, or that benefit package for a soldier is looking pretty good to him. Well sometimes fast relationships last or end fast.

thank you for listening

[Nemo]

You should be proud of yourself for doing the right thing. If it wasn't for your unselfish actions, he would never have been able to find his true love. This is such a heartwarming story.

[DSA80]

Leos24Rule, you were perfectly within your right mind not to move to Japan after knowing this guy for 5 months. I think most women have pretty good gut instincts, and you went with that rather than go with the stuff he was saying to you. Good for you! Immature people will spin, but won't deliver. One has to wonder how he could talk about marriage with you and then taking the institution of marriage so seriously that out of the blue marries somebody else. Sad to say that double-timing is the most logical explanation for how sudden his engagement was.

Also, the military benefit package is really not that great for the sacrifices that the lifestyle entails. People who join for the benefits mainly usually find other options and the ones with the calling (or can't easily job transition due to family obligations) stay in.

I assume you don't speak Japanese or have a job option you'd love lined up for you out there. The only way he'd be worth it is if he's shown through his actions that you are the love of his life and you know in your gut that there's no reason to question that. I doubt his new wife has that. One more frog out of the way for you!

[Leos24Rule]

Thank you for the 2 that have responded so far. Um...he isn't married quite yet. He met this girl during his 2wks in Columbia before heading off to Japan on duty while he "met" his future bride. This month he announced his engagement on myspace and the wedding is set for Dec. of this yr. I know either way he's made up his mind and is happy. More power to him and with that said this should no doubt help me move on! Thank you DSA80 for your kind words and reassurance that I made the right move. I know I did, but was second guessing them.