[shortcakes]

Hi, well I used this board when I went through my divorce almost 2 years ago and found it to be a great outlet.


To recap: I dated my previous husband for 7 years and we were engaged for 1 year and then when we got married it fell apart and before our 1 year anniversary he left me for my brother's wife. It was pretty devastating. And at the time I thought I would never be happy again and I was really scared.

But, eventually you start to adventure out and sparks fly I have dated or been with 4 guys in the two years and the guy I am with now we just celebrated one year since we met.

He moved in back in January and it has been amazing ever since. Since, we have been together it was not all roses because I think I was scared to let someone in fully and he was persistent and even when I would speak up about why I didn't think it would work or problems I had he was such a good listener and motivated to work on us and improve.

It is because of HIS devotion that we remain together today and then something chaged and I fell in love and am so happy with him and appreciate him.

He is older than me and know what he wants. I am 27 and he is 34. He wants to be married and have children and I really want those things to...

But, am scared that if we in a year get Engaged, or married.. it will be too soon.

How do people know when it is too soon or do people say who cares whatever feels right...

anyone been through this or have an opinion?

[HYS]

IMO when you are a little older (not to be an insult), you have a better idea of the partner you are looking for. In other words, couples don't date as long as if you woudl if you were 21. Sounds like you guys have a healthy, mature and loving relationship. If you both are ready to get married then get married!

[Krisa]

You just know...you know when it's the right person and it feels right.

I met my fiancé online in October 2007, we met in person for the first time in Jan 2008. and we were engaged in March 2008and we will be married in August 2008. For us it doesn't feel fast, but to read it back it may sound a little fast. But we are very very happy. Before him I never wanted to get married or have children, but now I want nothing more then to be a family.

I have never been married I'm 27 and he is 39 and was married for 9 years (about 10 years ago he got divorced). I've never been one to be in a rush to do something...and I don't feel rushed now. We love each other completely and I have never been in a relationship (a LDR to boot) that was so wonderful.

Wish you the best,

KD

[Lauriebell82]

Okay so you had a bad marriage. It sounds like you guys took it slow and were together a long time..what made the relationship fall apart? I mean you guys didn't rush into marriage at all and it STILL fell apart.

Anyway, even though you have only known this guy a short time, I don't really think it matters how long you have been together. It's if you are compatible or not. Do you guys have similar feelings about things? Values, beliefs? Do you both want children? Careers? These are all things you need to talk about prior to getting engaged.

Most of all, you can't go by how long you have been together. It's if it feels right. Now sure couples who get married after a short time do end up getting divorced, but some are together a long time and still get divorced. So it's about compatibility. The most important thing is if you make each other happy. Do what is right for you!