Unavailable girls seem the friendliest?

Magnatolia · 8th May 2008, 8:04 AM

Ladies,

Why is it that unavailable girls seem to be the friendliest towards me? I have one friend who talks/emails me all the time, etc. There was a girl at work who introduced herself and was really bubbly, asking about me etc but she was married.

Is it just coincidence?

LucreziaBorgia · 8th May 2008, 9:31 AM

Unavailable people are comfortable with you because there is no pressure or tension there - nothing gained, nothing lost, no pressure to perform a certain way. They don't want to be with you, so they don't run their interactions through the 'potential hookup' filter. They are friendly, because by doing so and being unavailable they don't have to worry about sending the wrong message.

Dark-N-Romantic · 8th May 2008, 7:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LucreziaBorgia

Unavailable people are comfortable with you because there is no pressure or tension there - nothing gained, nothing lost, no pressure to perform a certain way. They don't want to be with you, so they don't run their interactions through the 'potential hookup' filter. They are friendly, because by doing so and being unavailable they don't have to worry about sending the wrong message.

Lucrezia Borgia hit the nail on the head. Nothing more I can or would even dear add to that.

DNR

monkey00 · 8th May 2008, 10:54 PM

they are the friendliest because they've got nothing to lose by doing so. Plus women are more flirt friendly when they're already with someone, though they have no intention of cheating.

When I was younger and clueless I took their friendliness for interest, but the fact is that they were just being friendly. There are times where friendliness means they're interested...though I find the former is more common.

NotKelly · 9th May 2008, 9:46 PM

Not much to add to this, except to pose the question: So how do girls act when they're interested?

(I ask because I've only ever gone out with one guy, so I want to make sure I'm sending out the right signals...)

Pedigree · 10th May 2008, 8:58 AM

True this. My girl friend was really friendly...so much so that she took the trouble of introducing me to her boyfriend. But he and I had enough in common to become friends so that's cool.

I would hope that if the girls in question are unavalaible, they would make it clear as quickly as possible that they're unavailable. I say this as someone who is in a situation where being led on is a possibility.