[Magnatolia]

Hi all,

Ladies, what has a guy done that has worked on you to make him appealing, whether it was only one date or more. I guess I just want some practical advice that I can take onboard. No generic suggestions like 'be confident' because I need to have some kind of skill to be confident. It's a bit like telling a person who's never driven a truck to get behind the wheel and just be confident.

Guys, what have you done that has impressed a lady, even if it only got you one date?

I'm not looking for pickup lines, anything dishonest, etc. Maybe it was a particular fashion style he had, or something he said, or even just the way he held himself (something that made him look confident).

Thanks

[dprice218]

I'm not good at the getting a date part, but I am good once I'm on the date. That's because once you h ave the date, you know there's a chance and thus there's less for you to worry about, at least as far as my understanding goes.

As for what I did/do once I'm on the date: I'm articulate, discuss things quite external to my personal life (e.g. my passions independent of my personal history), maintain good body language, LISTEN TO HER and ask questions (assuming you actually are interested in her), AVOID generic responses and/or questions.

And a minor but often times crucial one is this: be romantic without being a door mat. Go for the wine and italian restaurant, but only go for a movie if you two had sufficient spark between you. Also, for your own good, be very prudent in physical advances. If you're certain you CAN kiss her without rejection, and there are ways of telling in some instances, make sure you kiss her GOOD and do it so that its surprise without being a complete shock.

[dprice218]

Oh and in most cases its not a good idea to go beyond a kiss/kissing on the first date. Even if you're certain you could. There's no harm in waiting, it's not the last time you'll be able to hook up with a girl ;-)

By the way this advice assumes you're in your very late teens (in college) or early 20's. I have no experience in any other demographic, haha.