[London Girl]

My ex and I met on-line and we have been dating for 2 months. We became exclusive after one week. Over the last month I felt he was making not much effort in our relationship and I told him I was unhappy and if he still wanted to be with me otherwise we can be friends. He tells me that he does want to be with me and will make more of an effort.

However, since our talk he became elusive, does not contact me and not made any effort. We could go for days/nearly a week without speaking which I don't feel is healthy esp. during the start of a relationship. Also we use to bicker alot over silly things such as I cook all the time, he does not flush the toilet, me always suggesting doing things and him checking his dating site etc.

Anyway, I got fed up of him saying he will call and not calling and me suggesting doing things. I got tired with his hot and cold behaviour and sent him an email to end things.

I basically said I don't want to end things but he does not show any desire to make the relationship work and I'm tired of being on an emotional roller coaster. I said we can discuss if he wanted to but if I don't hear from him I will take his silence as he is not interested. That was 4 days ago and he has not responded. I know he has been chatting to girls on-line too.

The problem is I really miss him. He is a stubborn guy and very much acts like a child despite being 35. I thought at least he could do is reply since we have been together for 2 months. What i don't understand if he did not want to be with me why did he not say so instead of becoming distant and elusive?

I am not going to contact him again but do you think he will contact me?

[Nightsky]

I’m going to read between the lines and guess that you were in love with him even though you didn’t mention it and that’s why you miss him even though you dumped him. You did the right thing, it didn’t sound like he had what it takes to return that love with his. I realize the advice I’m about to give you is far easier said then done, but you’ll be better off if you don’t even think about him and whether he is going to call.

[9Lives]

My heart goes out to you. Please do not call him because that is saying to him I will let you treat me any kind of way just to be with him. Easier said than done. Actions speak louder than words

[miss_28]

i once had a guy i only dated for a month contact me 6 months after he dropped off the face of the earth... i had originally really liked him, but the second time around, i went on a date with him and was completely and utterly turned off (mind you, i had completely gotten over him by that point). but like i said, he contacted me completely out of the blue. IF he does contact you, play it smart... don't get attached... and don't get too excited... in fact, you should even talk to him if you're not sincerely over him. point is, he may or may not contact you (for whatever reason), but heal FIRST (worry about the rest later... (lol... its easier giving advice than taking your own...)

[incomingfire]

He ain't gonna call you. Especially if he's researched the NO CONTACT rule.

He'll be waiting for YOU to call. Only call him if you are willing to appologise, give things another go and convince him you won't hurt him again.

Otherwise, DO NOT CALL.