at the beginning of uni, i became really good friends with a girl on my course, and until about 2 months ago we had many a giggle.
but about 2 months ago, she became good friends with a group of 3 girls on our course. and since then, has spent every living hour with them, completely ignoring me. (which is nice...?!)
i try and get involved with them but we have nothing in common, because they are just barbie dolls, really fake, shallow, bitchy and 2 faced, and up in their own world.
im sick and tired of their bitchy-ness, and the fact that they just look down on me the whole time like im some loser-ish piece of dirt on the bottom of their shoe..(.which obviously im not...pieces of dirt cant type...i hope?!)
as you can probably gather i cant stand any of them any more, but UNLUCKY...im living with the original friend next year. i might just shoot her.
its the classic case of changing friend groups yet again in my life.
it is JUST pee-ing me off.
shall i just ignore them as they've ignored me? and go along with another group of friends just oblivious to the bitchy lot?
not give them the time of day type thing?
ARGH. schmee?
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i am joking about the shooting by the way...just so no-one thinks im some psycho.
heh, its my way of expressing anger. not shooting...just saying "Argh, cant i just shoot so and so"
What happened that you are going to be moving in together next year? Maybe if you move in together it will make you close again? You will be on the inside the the bitches will be on the outside!
I had something like that happen in college too, but the girl who I was friends with asked if I would be her partner on a project. Well I learned more about her through that experience, she never paid me back for half of the supplies, had to go to her place (when I am near the school and had all the supplies cause I picked them up). At her place we started working then she starts talking on the phone to the bitches and not work. The converstaions also proved how stupid she really was. (telling them that pulling out is a good way for birth control ) When I was tired of the BS and had done most of the work so far anyway I said I had to go and we would finish up in the morning. It was due in the afternoon. I called her in the morning and she said she finished it and in class the teacher pulls be aside and says she talked to him and was giving her the marks! I told him my side but he still sided with her.
PS I didn't think you were going to shoot anyone!
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Meet new people, make new friends. Why bother even spending any energy or thought about those girls? They are still acting like they're in high school and immature.
I wouldn't say IGNORE them, just exclude them from your life. You don't have to be bitchy or mean about it, just be who you are. Focus on your studies and your future.
Meet new people, make new friends. Why bother even spending any energy or thought about those girls? They are still acting like they're in high school and immature.
I wouldn't say IGNORE them, just exclude them from your life. You don't have to be bitchy or mean about it, just be who you are. Focus on your studies and your future.
Totally agree. Life is way too short to mull over why so and so doesn't want to be your friend. You are in university, and around hmmm several thousand other interesting people. You'll probably never get this opportunity to be so social again. Go out. Meet people. Enjoy.
This "friend" that ignores you, since she's found "like" to hang out with, sounds like she never was a real friend in the first place. Don't move in with her next year, if at all possible.
Get out there and start socializing. No use being angry at a bunch of people who don't deserve to have impact in your life.
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, because they are just barbie dolls, really fake, shallow, bitchy and 2 faced, and up in their own world.
These are definitely my kind of people. Anyway, I sense some jealousy in you. Have some class, and accept that not everyone is destined for greatness. You can still lead a full and active life as a second-tier human being. Good luck.
These are definitely my kind of people. Anyway, I sense some jealousy in you. Have some class, and accept that not everyone is destined for greatness. You can still lead a full and active life as a second-tier human being. Good luck.
I didn't sense jealousy at all, frustration and confusion maybe. They are the ones that lack class if they are ignoring for no reason.
Though she can move on and have a better life with out them.
These are definitely my kind of people. Anyway, I sense some jealousy in you. Have some class, and accept that not everyone is destined for greatness. You can still lead a full and active life as a second-tier human being. Good luck.
I was close with a group of girls the first two years of school... but I grew tired of their penchant for being mean and caddy. Out of the blue my closest friend amongst them went to my staff advisor to tell her she thought I was anorexic- even claimed to have heard me throwing up my lunch in the bathroom. That was a huge lie- and I got hauled into my advisors office to be scrutinized and questioned to see if I was "stable" enough to remain in my program.
Needless to say- I found out it was my "best friend" who had lied to my advisor.
I removed myself from the equation and spent my next year and a half of my program ignoring those girls and doing my own thing. It was actually liberating to be free of the caddy gossip and high school antics (I was 24 at the time)... I just rose above it and went on to graduate in the top 3 of my class- none of those girls made it to the top 10.
I wouldn't live with your former friend next year- it's best to distance yourself from people like that- they only bring you down. Find people on the same maturity level, and hang with them- you'll feel better!
your probably right, i just need to distance myself from them rather than ignore.
the problem with the whole living situation is that i cant really pull out cos it will cost me £100, and thats £100 more than i have. so could be difficult.
but on the possitive side of the living-ness, there are still 3 spare rooms, in our flat, so hopefully some lovely normal, down to earth people can come who i can befriend and she can be all lonely again. HA!...im not mean...lol.
but isnt it sad that there are actually people who think acting like a complete fake bitch is grown up and admirable. get a life.
I think you can still keep the living situation. There's no rule that says you have to be friends with your roommates. Just make it a priority to hang out with different people. I'm sure there's an on-campus club or organization for pretty much anything that interests you.
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well ive got loads of other mates, and im gona practically be living in 4 different places next year to get away from the bitch clan. so in that sense its alright. and my mates have instructed me to stay with them on a regular basis, cos i get on really well with all of their housemates/flatmates aswell, which is awesome. so i;ll barely be at my flat anyway, i reckon i'll be alreet.
also there are some lovely down to earth people on my course, who i reckon i'll become better friends with next year.
i feel really bad to have to chose between groups, cos im friends with practically everyone but my sanity is a risk here!! lol.
but im a social butterfly so ill be fine.
and your right that i dont have to get on with my flatmates...its just a shame she's on my course too really..heh.
im feeling more possitive today. so all is gravy, like. lol.
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) When I was tired of the BS and had done most of the work so far anyway I said I had to go and we would finish up in the morning. It was due in the afternoon. I called her in the morning and she said she finished it and in class the teacher pulls be aside and says she talked to him and was giving her the marks! I told him my side but he still sided with her.
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