[Unxpctd1014]

I'm 19 and this guy is 39. [yes some people may think its gross others may say 'hey you're young, do your thang'] He looked really good for his age.

This guy and I met 8 months ago [Aug] and our relationship only lasted for the 1st month we met. Our relationship was strictly sexual until he started to catch feelings and wanted a long term relationship with me. He said he wanted to make babies with me and marry me in April [freakd me out]. He was a really nice guy and I would have gotten serious with him only if he was in his 20s.

He had went away to the Dominican Republic for a weekend and wanted me to go with him. [I didnt even know him like that to even go out of state with him so why go out of the country] When he came back, he was mad that I didn't call him while he was away or even pick him up from the airport. When he came back, the next weekend i saw him and he went through my phone and checked my call history and even my text messages back to when he was away and got mad because i was contacting guys at late hours while he was away. so he was jealous and had sex with this next chick. I was mad that he didn't that and decided to end it because i don't share my treats with other people. He claims that I messed up to by talking to other people and telling my best friend whose a guy that i loved him.

I don't want to lose his friendship because he's taught me so much in the amount of time that i was close to him but he couldn't take no for an answer and tried to throw himself on me. He even disrespected the guy im currently with now. he went away to Egypt for a month and came back this weekend and called me. My b/f doesn't like him because he became aggressive towards me and disrespected him but we can all get over that eventually. I just want to be able to be around this guy and be okay and not have to keep talking about out history all the time and discuss what happened between us.

[sultry33]

Originally Posted by Unxpctd1014

I don't want to lose his friendship because he's taught me so much in the amount of time that i was close to him but he couldn't take no for an answer and tried to throw himself on me. He even disrespected the guy im currently with now. he went away to Egypt for a month and came back this weekend and called me. My b/f doesn't like him because he became aggressive towards me and disrespected him but we can all get over that eventually. I just want to be able to be around this guy and be okay and not have to keep talking about out history all the time and discuss what happened between us.

hi not sure why you still want to be friends really.. you both have different partners.. and if your current bf is not keen then why jeapodise it?
if you do want to be friends in the future take some time out.. is myadvice

[Unxpctd1014]

Originally Posted by sultry33

hi not sure why you still want to be friends really.. you both have different partners.. and if your current bf is not keen then why jeapodise it?
if you do want to be friends in the future take some time out.. is myadvice

True, thank you! I'll call him and left him know today!

[Unxpctd1014]

I couldnt tell him because when i try to he always gets off the phone. Should I just meet up with him for one last time or still do it over the phone?

[justaman99]

Originally Posted by Unxpctd1014

I couldnt tell him because when i try to he always gets off the phone. Should I just meet up with him for one last time or still do it over the phone?

What do you mean gets off the phone? Hangs up with you? OK REALITY CHECK!

The dude is 39
You're 19
The dude hangs up on you
The dude is 39
The guy hung up on you
He's 39
He's 19 + 19 + 1
He's ______

Don't do anything. If he calls tell him to f*** off and it's over.

[Unxpctd1014]

Originally Posted by justaman99

What do you mean gets off the phone? Hangs up with you? OK REALITY CHECK!

The dude is 39
You're 19
The dude hangs up on you
The dude is 39
The guy hung up on you
He's 39
He's 19 + 19 + 1
He's ______

Don't do anything. If he calls tell him to f*** off and it's over.

Oh believe me dear he didn't hang up on me. What happened was that every time he senses I'm about to tell him off [because every conversation leads to how i messed up 'our' relationship] he finds a reason to say ''hey beautiful, i'll call you back."

He wants me to see him when my semester is over. He wants to show me pictures from when he went on a months vacation to Egypt and Ethiopia...

[justaman99]

He's 39....... That is too old for you. I'm sorry but it isn't right. You have so much to experience and learn. I suggest you move on.

[Unxpctd1014]

Originally Posted by justaman99

He's 39....... That is too old for you. I'm sorry but it isn't right. You have so much to experience and learn. I suggest you move on.

Oh believe me I have, this man was in my life for only a month. August 2007. I appreciate what he's taught me, but I always thought he was to old for me! 20 years?? PLEASE! I'm in a happy relationship with this man that is 5 years older then me. [is that better? lol] We've been dating exactly today 7 months [may 14th 2008]

[Karyyk]

Originally Posted by Unxpctd1014

I don't want to lose his friendship because he's taught me so much in the amount of time that i was close to him but he couldn't take no for an answer and tried to throw himself on me. He even disrespected the guy im currently with now. he went away to Egypt for a month and came back this weekend and called me. My b/f doesn't like him because he became aggressive towards me and disrespected him but we can all get over that eventually. I just want to be able to be around this guy and be okay and not have to keep talking about out history all the time and discuss what happened between us.

All get over that? Or do you mean you want your current boyfriend to get over it? The guy is obviously not over you. In other words, this isn't going to happen...

If your current BF is worth his salt, he'll continue to dislike him, because he knows what any other guy also knows, that this guy would and will throw himself at you the first chance that he gets and that as long as you want to keep the "friendship," you're basically giving him that glimmer of hope. I mean, the guy refers to you as "beautiful," yeah, your boyfriend has nothing to be jealous of at all (note sarcasm). I think it's time to dispell the pipe dream...

[Lucky_One]

This is sort of like your Ex's will always be Ex's thread - except in reverse.

All the advice here is telling you to care about your BF's feelings about you, and how this old XBF will do nothing but screw up your new R. The same thing is happening with your BF and his XGF. He lets her hang around, he stays friends with her (even though she wants back into his bed), and he is going to let your bad feelings about this screw up your new R.

Dump the old guy. Easy choice. Either your new BF is more important to you than the old guy, or not.