[shelly76]

Hello. I actually posted this yesterday in the 'breaking up' forum but realized I might get some good advice here in the divorce/seperation forum. Ok here's my story....my husband of 6 yrs (together 8) told me he wants a divorce back in Feb. out of nowhere. I was on my last week of maternity leave at the time with our 2nd child. I asked him what this was about and he gave me a bunch of lame excuses. Well, it didn't take long to learn that there was someone else. But, it's WHO that shocked me. One of his best friends,Mark, died tragically last June in a motorcycle accident and was engaged at the time. My husband is in the Marine Corps (so was Mark) and attended the funeral as an escort. While there, got to know the family and friends and gave them all his contact info in case they needed anything. Mark's parents as well as the fiance kept in touch and I never thought anything of it. She'd call here & there and see how things were going. She'd ask about our son, me, the pregnancy-I had no reason to be jealous or suspect anything. Well, my hubby started acting really weird the first week of Feb and a week later said he wants a divorce. I was shocked, everything seemed to be normal between us. I immediately thought something was up since he had been acting strange for a week so I got online and checked the cell phone records and Mark's fiance's number was all over the phone bill. It started the week he was acting weird at home. Text messages all day long while he was at work and he talked to her his whole drive home (he has an hour drive to work) I asked him about it and he said they were just chatting. Then a couple weeks later he said they have fallen in love and want to be together. He told me that once our divorce is final, they are going to get married and have a baby of their own.

My confusion/question is this...can something like this really work out and last? This relationship seems wrong on so many levels. I don't think she has had ample time to grive the death of Mark and is using my husband as some type of replacement. Mark died June 8, 2007, they were supposed to be married at the end of June. And then by Feb 08 she's ready to begin a relationship w/my husband. It just doesn't make sense how something like this could ever work out?! Please provide some advice. Thank you.