[molecularbiologist1]

I just graduated from college and moved back into my parent's house while I look for a job.

Since my mother hates my boyfriend more than anything else in this world, it has become really taxing on me to live at home. I try to be as rational as I can about the situation, but on Friday I had to run away to my boyfriend's house because my mom started in on me about how terrible he is. She started saying things about him (calling him a loser, a fatass...etc. ) and I got defensive and told her some hurtful things like "at least he has a college degree and you didn't even graduate from high school". I shut the door to my room and she slammed into it until she broke through... and wished my boyfriend to die and yelled "I curse you [insert boyfriend's name here]".

So... I left and ran away for the weekend. She continued to text me and call me while I was gone. I ignored most of it until she told me that I was letting the devil tell me what to do. Unfortunately, I had to come back on Monday because I had a job interview and all of my things were still at the house because I left in such a hurry. My mom has been acting strange since I've been back and I'm just waiting for another explosion.

I really love my boyfriend and I don't know what I should do. It gets so hard sometimes that I contemplate breaking up with my boyfriend so that my mom will let up on me. I can't afford to be on my own right now and it's hard.

I'm just looking for a little advice or maybe some personal experience.

Thanks everyone for listening.

[whichwayisup]

Growing up, did your mom display that kind of behaviour towards you? What about your father, what does he do when your mom is acting crazy?

It is possible she is manic? Bi-polar?

If you can afford it, move out to a friends house. Not sure how old you are, but being away from home for a long time and then moving back in, isn't easy either..

I have to ask though, does your mom have a right to be concerned about your boyfriend? Is he working? In school? What is it that she hates about him?