[Exodus]

So me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over two months. Things have been going great. You know, the usual... "I love you" "You're awesome" etc. etc. I've met her parents, she's met mine. She even bought a bracelet for my mom for mother's day coming up, and asks about my family from time to time. I've met her close friends and all. Really seems like it's going somewhere. So it's all good for now.

A few things though. Why would she try to make me jealous? And what's the right way to play this? We both established that we trust one another already when we first started dating, so is this some kind of test? I recently got hired at T-Mobile and get huge discount for two lines. She asked about it and seemed interested. But the phone she wanted was too expensive right now, so I recommended we should wait a few months. Her response, "If we're still together by then!" and she laughed. Now she was with her friend, so I mean I didn't take it seriously. Just kinda laughed and jokingly said, "Pff, I'm outta here!" Ofcourse I didn't go anywhere.

And also, I don't want to be clingy or anything, but it's so hard to figure out when to call or txt her. I mean, if I don't... she would think I don't care for her, right? But if I do... I would be too needy. She really hasn't been in that many relationships, but she has said something around the lines of: "You're different and make me feel different in a good way."

Sorry for the long read, any advice would be great. Thank you!

[TogetherForever]

Hi Exodus!!
Welcome to LS.
You'd get more responses in the LS Dating section.
TF

[Enema]

I don't read that as her "trying to make you jealous" at all.

As to knowing when to call/sms her... don't try to strategize these things.

If you want to txt her, do it. It's better to be yourself rather than what you think she wants. Even if she's not the one, you'll eventually find someone that is cool with the real you and you're all set without needing to put in so much effort.

[carhill]

OP, she's testing out your level of interest. Let your actions speak for you. Be yourself.

You noted an action of hers, buying your mother a bracelet. How do you feel about that? This is what I'm talking about.

If she doesn't have a lot of relationship experience, IMO it would be helpful to communicate about pacing, beyond what normally is shared through actions. This is really important to keep a couple emotionally in sync as the relationship grows.

Your example about the cell phone is a great one. IMO, you're not yet at that stage where you would have a lady on your cell phone account, regardless of you working in the biz. It's a boundary issue. This of course is personal, and I tend to take relationships more slowly, not because of lack of interest, but because of "too much, too fast" type of actions. For example, at the extreme, my wife and I did not live together until after we were married, but we spent many nights and weekends at each others homes during our dating and engagement period. You'll need to decide what sort of boundaries you want and communicate that to her. In the case of your example, I might have said "That sounds great, but I think this phone will come down in price and I might be able to get you a better deal on both the phone and the plan after I've been here a few months. Let's look some more." That acknowledges her interest and that you're looking out for her but sets a boundary that every advantage that comes your way doesn't automatically get assigned to her. Such is a privilege that is earned.

No red flags here (I don't see any incitement to or issues with jealousy myself). Have fun!