Hi all. I realized I should post in this forum because I have been talking to this guy who claims t like me so much, but he is living with another woman. He calls me, and emails me several times a week,and even though we are just friends, we flirt a lot and he talks about wanting to be with me, but he can't because of his relationship. But he always makes it sound as if that possibility is right around the corner. He says he does not know
what might happen in the future because he is not sure he wants to stay with her, they fight all the time,etc.
We have never had sex, but it annoys me because I do not know what he gets out of this friendship if he wants to remain in his relationship.
I feel like he likes the attention from me, bt has no intentions of doing anything about it, which only pisses me off. I told him to please not contact me anymore because it only hurts me. he says he will stop, but then he does it again.
So what's his deal??? Am I just an ego boost? Why won't he leave me alone?? I don't want to be his OW!!!!
By the way...he says he "cares about me a lot"...then wouldn't he NOT want to hurt me???
I'm sure in his own way he does care about you, just not enough to end his relationship. He cares, but he cares about himself more, that's how he can do what he does.
Your best bet is let him know you don't want to hear from him anymore, and when/IF he breaks up with his girlfriend and it's final, to then contact you, but until then, do the no contact. Then block his email and IM name from your list. Ignore his calls.
I have asked him before to leave me alone, but he always weasels his way back by saYing he misses me, and misses talking to me. He knows I
like him a lot, and would like more, but not as long as he is with her. I have been weak in the past, but I realize he is just using me emotionally.
I know I somehow make his relationship better or even more tolerable.That is not my place or my responsibility, and in fact it makes me angry.
We have fought about this so many times I am just sick of it.I am sick of his selfishness. So NO CONTACT is my only option at this point. I want him to be happy, but not at my expense.
but he always weasels his way back by saYing he misses me, and misses talking to me
True, but you let him in. And he knows how to push your buttons and make you weak. SAY NO and mean it. If you cave, again and again, he'll know he can manipulate you (Not malciously, but selfishly) into having him in your life again.
Yes, you feed his ego. Again, not malciously, but selfishly. For him, it must be great to know another woman digs him, yet he can be in control AND still have his girlfriend and the perks that go along with having the relationship going on.
Bottomline, he has a girlfriend. Chances are his relationship probably isn't half as bad as he's made it out to be, hense him not ending it with her..
Yep, you are so right wwiu. This is what finally pissed me off enough to tell him to leave me alone. I know I am an ego boost..nothing more.
He says things to get my hopes up...yet never acts on them. And yes, I am SURE he lies about his relationship to get me to stick around. I'm sticking to NC though. He can find another sucker to feed his over inflated ego. I'm through.
You can do better and once you heal, get over him, you'll see he wasn't 'all that' to begin with. ANY guy who chases another woman while still in a committed relationship and/or married, isn't the type of guy you would want anyway. I mean, look at what he's capable of doing to his present live-in girlfriend. Nice huh?
Keep busy, keep posting and remember HE isn't worthy of you.
Thanks WWIU. I realized I am disgusted with him. And he must not respect me very much to do this to me either, let alone his G/F.I feel sorry for her.
I have another thread in "coping" with my NC thread.
When a man continues to call after you have requested NC, he is disrespecting you. He is sending the message that he is in control of the relationship & what he wants is more important to him than what you want.
Hi all. I realized I should post in this forum because I have been talking to this guy who claims t like me so much, but he is living with another woman. He calls me, and emails me several times a week,and even though we are just friends, we flirt a lot and he talks about wanting to be with me, but he can't because of his relationship. But he always makes it sound as if that possibility is right around the corner. He says he does not know
what might happen in the future because he is not sure he wants to stay with her, they fight all the time,etc.
We have never had sex, but it annoys me because I do not know what he gets out of this friendship if he wants to remain in his relationship.
I feel like he likes the attention from me, bt has no intentions of doing anything about it, which only pisses me off. I told him to please not contact me anymore because it only hurts me. he says he will stop, but then he does it again.
So what's his deal??? Am I just an ego boost? Why won't he leave me alone?? I don't want to be his OW!!!!
By the way...he says he "cares about me a lot"...then wouldn't he NOT want to hurt me???
good for you tin! even im in NC with someone who used me up chewd on me lied to me and then mistrated me..
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