[brenda collins]

Right, So we have been very close friends for around a year now! We were friends before, but only started becoming very close when we both broke up with our boyfriends and helped each other through that tough time. We do everything together and we are very close. recently however she has been driving me insane. It started off with little things like she started copying me, she got her hair coloured and cut like mine, she started copying my clothes, to the extent where she was wearing matching outfits to me everytime we went out. and even decided she wants to go into the same job field as me when we finish uni. (fashion PR) she does science as a degree and was planning to be a pychologist! I shuld have been flatterred however she was nasty about it. fOR instance with the hair thing she told me oh its like yours but not as white, its nicer than yours! as if that was not enough she also has started calling me insane amounts talking about ridiculous things such as once she spent an hour asking me whether she should get a pizza express take away or not... I am in the middle of m finals at uni and it is the last thing i want to hear... she just goes on and on and on about ****e the whole time! SHe also has this very annoying habit of having to have an alec smart answer to everything, she can never agree but always has to have a different opinion which she spends hours voicing! At times I think she does it on purpose to deliberately annoy me or to see how far she can push me. I have kept snapping at her as she annoys me so much however she keeps on and on.. Tonight however was the final straw. We have just booked holiday together for three weeks in the summer. My mum booked it with her travel agent... Earlier this week she had asked me once and in passing if i could get her the number for the travel agents as she needed to transfer her points onto her card. With all the finals, i forgot. I then get this message tonight, she had not reminded me of the number thing at all, being extremely patronizing and agressive saying that her mum had just called her up and wanted her to transfer the points now because she wanted to use them for her flight to new york tomorrow. This is at nine o clock in the evening, so for a start the travelagents is closed. The message was agressive and patronizing and was like i asked you during the week and u still havent done what i asked bla bla bla... I just lost it and phoned her and ranted into her answermachine about how that was totally uncalled for and how she had no right to have a go at me. and how she was seriously pissing me off at the moment... I gave her the number as well. We havent spoken since I left that message. she is my best friend and i dont want to lose her, but i really feel that she is doing all this to annoy me on purpose. ANd the whole copying thing, its like she is in competition with me. We are going on holiday in 6 weeks and i have a feeling she is going to drive me insane. Please help and let me know what u think...

[brenda collins]

pleaseeeeeeee someone advise!!

[whichwayisup]

We do everything together and we are very close.

This is why you two are having problems. You don't have to spend every single waking minute together.

Honestly, if she is your bestfriend, love her for who she is. Learn how to cope with her annoying little ways. If you do talk to her, don't LOSE IT on her, like you did on the answering machine. That wasn't cool! I mean, you two are going away together and BOTH of you need to set some boundries up and learn to respect eachother in the sense how to honestly and nicely speak to one another calmly and sort problems out.

I've had the same bestfriend since I was in grade 9, (I'm 37 years old now) and it takes effort to keep a good and healthy friendship alive and thriving.

Call her and tell her you're sorry you got mad, then calmly tell her why you were upset.