[missmurder16]

when I was in middle school I had problems. Not only was I abused by my mother mentally and physically, that caused me to not give a damn about what I looked like or taking care of myself,b/c i was so caught up in my mother's mental illness. when she was finally arrested I lived with family for a few years and never heard from my mom, I assumed she either forgot about me or was still in jail or a hospital
then my grandpa died. that was horrible because he and I had an amazing relationship with eachother, I could understand him and he knew about my old boyfriend and how I felt about my mom. my mother called that week, she was getting out of a hospital. so I saw her last thursday and she was on so many mental drugs that I almost didn't know who she was. she is also homeless, and I'm wondering if I should try to get her help or not. Its complicated because she is unstable and neither my close family or friends know what to do because my mom was unable to connect with anyone except me before she left.
I know she cannot get anything out of a relationship with me because of her mental illness but I don't want to ignore her and let her live out on the streets. any ideas?

[missmurder16]

I know you must think I'm pretty nuts for thinking I can do anything, because I'm only 16, but because i've been through a lot I am very confident and my mom wasn't really close to anyone except me and my grandpa but he died

[CaliGuy]

Originally Posted by missmurder16

when I was in middle school I had problems. Not only was I abused by my mother mentally and physically, that caused me to not give a damn about what I looked like or taking care of myself,b/c i was so caught up in my mother's mental illness. when she was finally arrested I lived with family for a few years and never heard from my mom, I assumed she either forgot about me or was still in jail or a hospital
then my grandpa died. that was horrible because he and I had an amazing relationship with eachother, I could understand him and he knew about my old boyfriend and how I felt about my mom. my mother called that week, she was getting out of a hospital. so I saw her last thursday and she was on so many mental drugs that I almost didn't know who she was. she is also homeless, and I'm wondering if I should try to get her help or not. Its complicated because she is unstable and neither my close family or friends know what to do because my mom was unable to connect with anyone except me before she left.
I know she cannot get anything out of a relationship with me because of her mental illness but I don't want to ignore her and let her live out on the streets. any ideas?

Yikes.

This is a tough decision you have to make and I commend you for your compassion for her. I would definitely recommend you try and get her help but I haven't the first clue where you'd go for that.

Do any of your other relatives have the means to assist?

[quankanne]

the city where I live has got a center that helps people in similar situations, with helping them with meds and referring them to agencies that assist with employment and housing situations. If anything, check with Goodwill or a homeless or even women's shelter to see what they can suggest. Also check with a larger local church that might have a social justice/social ministries office and who can give you a heads-up on where to turn.

help is definitely out there, just ask.

my condolences to you on losing your grandpa ... how are you holding up with that?