X Friend trying to come back

BklynGuy · 28th April 2008, 10:49 PM

I met a guy on the job and we became close too quickly...yes life, Im learning. One day he EXPLODED on me about a co-worker (female) that liked me, not him. He and I shared secrets, were like brothers etc. for a year. I came to work and he began threatening me, telling me he'd kill me, etc. I was subjected to this for an entire shift (8 hrs). I ended up blowing up back on him & killing the friendship. The girl used me to get even with her bf for cheating, to get attn, etc.

I could clearly tell from his behavior that there were jealousy issues between me & him. I know he knew why she came to me but believe due to his jealousy he didn't tell me what he knew as she played him & he probably wanted to see me get played by the same girl (which happened).

Nobody on this job liked him, NOBODY! Everyone stayed away from him. I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt (Error in judgement). So he EXPLODES IN ANGER towards me. I tried to ask him what was up but he wouldnt tell me. After I cut him off, ppl came to my house to threaten me indirectly. Stolen cars would show up in front of my house. I would get TONS of harassing calls on my cell phone. I got tired and sent a message back....right away HE calls me back. All this time Im thinking it's the girls bf...but am not sure as it was always a different # & if I tried to call back,no one would answer the phone.

I left the job & tried to leave him & her behind me. He always told me we'd have problems if I turned on him. HE TURNED ON ME FIRST! OVER A GIRL HE LIKED...WAS NEVER WITH BUT LIKED....I DONT GET THAT! Guess he was immature & couldnt handle rejection like an adult. I didnt talk to him for about 9-10 months. One day one of his female friends I talked to but didnt get with calls me out of the blue...I had taken this day off work. She was like lets hang out....I said cool as I dont get out much anymore...He ends up showing up on our date...I said this was a trap.

I stop talking to her & address him & explain to him why we're not friends anymore...it's due to his behavior. He's NOT the type to take responsibility for his actions....would blame it on me or use any opportunity to deflect the blame away from himself. I called him one day & told him off! Told him it's due to his behavior that we're not friends & I DONT wanna be friends anymore...because you cant be friends with someone like him. It's not that I dont like him...I CANT trust him. He can be violent...imagine going to a bar & he flips & attacks me again. Im sure he'll contact me again. How do I get rid of him once & for all?

BklynGuy · 28th April 2008, 11:05 PM

She was a beautiful young girl, every mans physical dream. She had a lot of power over men & knew how to use her body to get the attn she wanted...Women...I felt like she liked me but she loved him & she told me that so it hurt, but I accepted that. He is the type to put his nose in your business even when he doesnt belong there.

Ive had problems with male friends over women before & tried to avoid them with him before they happened. It urks me that I tried to avoid the bs with him & in several situations before, he avoided them too. In this situation, he acted stupidly & attacked! I was shocked to be attacked by a friend. Im from Brooklyn, NY so am no stranger to violence. This is part of what scares me. Before Ive had problems with ppl...usually if you confront them directly they back down...or are not as tough as they pretend to be. In this situation, there was no one to confront. It was done so secretly.

I dont know if it was her bf as he had a reputation for messing with ppl. She told a lot of lies also...or if it was him as he flipped out on me at the same time her bf began messing with me. I dont hate him as I understand he liked her but didnt get her & thats why he flipped but I also expected more from him.

Why throw away a friendship over a female that doesnt want you anyway? Ive been rejected by women & KNOW it hurts but you have to deal with it & move on. I just dont know...

whichwayisup · 2nd May 2008, 8:47 PM

He sounds unbalanced and it's good he isn't in your life anymore.

I'm just throwing this out for the heck of it - Who knows if this is true or not .. But, is it possible that he fell for you? Not in a sexual way, but in a deep emotional way? He just seems TOO hurt by this, like you betrayed him deeply. (though you didn't..)

Anyway, if you see him, turn the other way. If he touches you, pushes you, get a restraining order against him.