[Quest2find]

Found the list in his car, names, numbers and prices.
They matched up to his cell phone records and bank withdrawal slips. Confronted him and he admitted everything. Both have been counseling for months. Guess can't get that picture out of my head. All of them are on line with websites that show everything. Are there any other wives in the same boat with me?

[mental_traveller]

Yes there are millions of wives in the same boat, it's just that most don't know about it.

It's kind of amazing how many married guys use whores. I'm neither married nor a woman nor a client of hookers, but as a guy you hear these stories from friends, work colleagues etc when women aren't around.

[Quest2find]

Mental Traveller thank you for your response and a male no less! I can't find any women that have found out to talk about it openly?
He spent 20 years seeing hookers on and off until I caught him. I had no idea what was going on. He came home every night for dinner. He never went out late with "the boys". What I found out was he would leave his job early and use the hookers before he came home. How would I ever find out that way? This is what I think wives need to be made aware of and not twenty years too late!
What's worst is he never took a shower after being with a hooker and got in our bed. I have HPV and Herpes now.
If people think prostitution is a "victimless" crime the should see the sores I have to deal with. The Cheating Husbands should NOT be able to play GOD with someone elses life.
I hope other people will response now? Thanks again.

[rproctor]

Im a guy and I think it is sick.

What even sickens me more is that you caught STD's from his selfishness.

It also sickens me that this is how women perceive men. Where now good men like myself are branded regardless.

Im sorry for your pain, I wish things would have been differently. I don't think anyone should have to do through that... Especially what you went through.

[Misslady]

I'm new to this forum, but so relieved that this topic has arisen. I've suspected my spouse for about 9months of cheating (we were married August 18th, 2007). I've confronted him numerous times, after finding suspicious items in our home...after his denials and numerous conversations (to which, have been our only real arguments--we get along splendidly and oddly, I know he does love me immensely)...I had to fix my phone online and came across his cell phone logs. Finding some odd numbers, I googled them and found numerous escort service calls.

I'm devastated...crushed. Our sex life has been an issue and our only issue. I'm more sexual than he and he states it's due to his 'low libido.' How does this make sense then, that he pays for sex? I'm ready and willing at home, and in fact, starved for attention?

Any help, wisdom is welcome...I'm truly at a loss. I dress in hot lingerie, I'm in great shape...totally clueless.

Many thanks, Misslady

[SoulSearch_CO]

I know STBXH used prostitutes in his last marriage. He hasn't outright done it in ours because he knows I wouldn't tolerate it as his last wife did. BUT...he has gone to massage parlors that offer the "happy ending." Ugh...let me roll my eyes. He did that twice before we got married, and then one time when we were separated after we were married. I have no idea why guys do this. It doesn't make any sense to me.

But OMG, STBXH would be in a ****LOAD of trouble with me if he ever brought any kind of disease home. OMG...I would be chopping off little man while he was sleeping. I heard of a case where a group of women in Vegas were bringing a lawsuit against a guy (they had all slept with him) for spreading his herpes around and even lying about having it. Gross. I would be so pissed. You seem to be pretty composed about it. I hope you're running away from this ******* at top speed!

[indianlover]

The sick thing is, from what I understand, my father cheated on my mother multiple times with prostitutes. One reason we moved when I was younger. We once got a call from a check cashing place saying this woman who normally gets X per week from my dad suddenly got 10x the amount. My mom was livid. I don't know how she deals with it...but 25 yrs and she still dealing. As she said, its better than my x-husband who couldn't hold a job. At least your father takes care of us...poor mom.

[mental_traveller]

Originally Posted by Quest2find

Mental Traveller thank you for your response and a male no less! I can't find any women that have found out to talk about it openly?
He spent 20 years seeing hookers on and off until I caught him. I had no idea what was going on. He came home every night for dinner. He never went out late with "the boys". What I found out was he would leave his job early and use the hookers before he came home. How would I ever find out that way? This is what I think wives need to be made aware of and not twenty years too late!
What's worst is he never took a shower after being with a hooker and got in our bed. I have HPV and Herpes now.
If people think prostitution is a "victimless" crime the should see the sores I have to deal with. The Cheating Husbands should NOT be able to play GOD with someone elses life.
I hope other people will response now? Thanks again.

Showers don't stop STDs. Unfortunately if your partner/husband cheats then you get put at risk. I would talk to a lawyer and see if you can sue him for infecting you.

Basically with this type of guy, IMO it becomes habitual. One guy I know through a friend of a friend had a big hooker habit and earned enough to be able to indulge it. Sure enough, once he got married he found it a hard habit to kick.

[Quest2find]

Thanks to everyone. I was hoping that more wives would come forth. It seems more people are interested in the goings on at "strip clubs" if you see that thread 3,000 views. Maybe it's because more wives KNOW about what their husbands do at strip clubs and think it's just a "boys" night out.

Maybe like me they have NO idea what their husband does on his lunch hour or on the way home from work...just like I had no idea for 20 years.

I'm a very smart women, but when my 13 year old son found his Father's porn on our family computer and he said it wasn't his.....I should have done more research on the topic. I would like to help other women so they do not have to go through what I have gone through.

It's hard to think "your" husband and the Father of you children could be such a pathetic liar.

Happy Mother's Day! (not)