[swedishfish]

I am 39 years old, only child, isolated from both sides of my family because of my parents. I feel like I have no one.

My mom says that my father raped her througout there marriage, includng her fiirst sexual experience.

He left her at the hospital the night I was born to go to the Bills Monday night game.
He has cheatd on her, has been a raging alcoholic, physically and sexually, emotionally abusive.
He is manipulative, a liar, selfish.

He has left her on the floor after she had a seizure to go get beer. He belittles her for years and years to their friends. My father has been in the hospital most of my life. My mother has stood by him. She was in the hospital once, and instead of being with her he checked himself in for some test he needed.
He denies everything he has done. He blames everything ( to this day ) on somebody else. his man that I know as my father has never taken any responsibility for any of his actions, eer. He has lied, been manipulative, and selfish his whole life even though he had a great women standing by his side.

1. what do i with my feelings?

2. I think he is an ass and have a hard time being in his presence, even thou he is my father?
3. my mother picks his side, even though I will be the one taking care of her when he dies? My mom and I have a great relationship except for him. What do i do????? please help, i feel like i have no one?1!!

[whichwayisup]

Please get counselling to help you through this. Your trust issues and pain run very deep.

Don't let your father ruin who you are! He is who he is and he isn't going to change. Love your mom, support her and try not to think too far ahead into the future in the sense of when he dies what will happen then.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Originally Posted by swedishfish

I am 39 years old, only child, isolated from both sides of my family because of my parents. I feel like I have no one.

My mom says that my father raped her througout there marriage, includng her fiirst sexual experience.

He left her at the hospital the night I was born to go to the Bills Monday night game.
He has cheatd on her, has been a raging alcoholic, physically and sexually, emotionally abusive.
He is manipulative, a liar, selfish.

He has left her on the floor after she had a seizure to go get beer. He belittles her for years and years to their friends. My father has been in the hospital most of my life. My mother has stood by him. She was in the hospital once, and instead of being with her he checked himself in for some test he needed.
He denies everything he has done. He blames everything ( to this day ) on somebody else. his man that I know as my father has never taken any responsibility for any of his actions, eer. He has lied, been manipulative, and selfish his whole life even though he had a great women standing by his side.

1. what do i with my feelings?

2. I think he is an ass and have a hard time being in his presence, even thou he is my father?
3. my mother picks his side, even though I will be the one taking care of her when he dies? My mom and I have a great relationship except for him. What do i do????? please help, i feel like i have no one?1!!

My family sucks too and they all have issues. but you know what I dont let my past make me.

It made me who I am today but I molded myself by learning who I am along the way.

Go hang out and live your life. Get some friends, let your moms deal with her crap. You cant save her, she has to save herself. and your father too.

Go see a therapist while you at it. You need to work through your issues.