I can't stop thinking about this poor, poor lady that told me a few things about her life.
She is an older woman and admits to having Bi Polar disorder and also that she has been off of her meds for over a year now.
In the same breath of her bi polar confession was another of sexual abuse by her father which spawned a mixed gender child.
She has other children and she waved off her hands and said they don't want anything to do with her. I can't say I blame them, she has quite the potty mouth. If she is that verbally abusive to a stranger then I can't imagine what goes down with those who are or have been closer to her.
This woman is unstable and completely crazy. She knows this.
I am scared of her and facinated by her at the same time. As interesting and horrific as her experiences are, she is still standing. She is not someone I want to know too well, as she is extremely unstable and cycles (on the minute) between nice and ultra abrasive.
She also admitted to having set herself on fire and that would explain some of her scars.
She does have some people looking out for her. She is one of our town's characters. I think I might want to pitch in and look out for her too, albeit, from a good distance. I give her credit though, to have survived somehow, all that she has.
I can't imagine the psyc damage done to her and how terrible it is to see how it has carried over into her life, her family, her relationships and even her current almost squalor existance. I wonder if she ever got serious counciling to deal with that early abuse? I doubt it. She doesn't strike me as the type that would embrace that sort of thing.
She is having a yard sale on Saturday. I kind of want to go. I can't imagine the things she will have out.
I think I might want to pitch in and look out for her too, albeit, from a good distance. I give her credit though, to have survived somehow, all that she has.
Good for you..
Sounds like you have a good heart...
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She is having a yard sale on Saturday. I kind of want to go. I can't imagine the things she will have out.
Like what ?... a fire suit
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Just be careful Undies.... I have worked with people like this (meaning I as their counsellor... lol... had to clarify that) and they can become obsessive. When people listen and pay attention to them... they don't forget.
I felt sorry for a poor mentally challenged guy who walks up and down my street where my store is, so I spoke to him once or twice. That is until he started talking to me about his penis and how he gets in trouble at his group home for playing with it too much. Yeah- big mistake.... Anyhow- the guy just sits around the front of my store waiting for me to come in and out. I can't get rid of him.
Just something to consider.... it is fascinating to meet people so unlike ourselves that we want to know more. But because there is mental illness involved, there is also unpredictability.
You don't want to be her audience if she decides to light herself on fire... and I don't mean that as a joke!
I have a theory that the only really crazy people out there are the ones who don't know that they are crazy.
This is true.
I should correct that she knows what people call her. She knows she is an outcast. She doesn't care.
She is a force to be reckoned with.
The first thing she ever said to me was "f' off you gd f'ing biatch". This was in response to me stopping my car in the middle of the road to let her cross (she was standing in the middle of the road). I have come to realize this is her way of saying "thank you".
I think her yard sale will consist of things garnered from other peoples' trash piles (or porches). I see her pushing her buggy around. If I find something from my trash pile, that would be kind of funny.
Just be careful Undies.... I have worked with people like this (meaning I as their counsellor... lol... had to clarify that) and they can become obsessive. When people listen and pay attention to them... they don't forget.
Just something to consider.... it is fascinating to meet people so unlike ourselves that we want to know more. But because there is mental illness involved, there is also unpredictability.
Don't worry, I hear you.
She doesn't know where I live (and I want to keep it that way).
I think it would be okay to go to her yard sale and 'buy' something. That way she can get some cash, and it wouldn't be seen as a hand out.
I think her yard sale will consist of things garnered from other peoples' trash piles (or porches). I see her pushing her buggy around. If I find something from my trash pile, that would be kind of funny.
I think recycling is great. These days, there are more ideas being recycled than ever before.
Have you ever thrown something out, and then wished you had kept it? If only every neighbourhood had a buggy-pushing salvage technician. Of course, as a fall-back option, there's always eBay.
I think it sounds like she gave you hope, because you compared your life to hers.
No, I don't feel hope. I feel sad for her as I don't think anyone should have to go through that kind of stuff. Horrific, and how could it not effect you negatively?
I can't begin to compare. I do feel thankful that I was born into better circumstances. It made me want to hug every child I know.
At the very least, I may have gotten a glimpse of understanding of how she turned out the way she did. Before I learned all this about her I just thought she was a really mean person. She is still a mean person, but at least I can see some of why.
As far as hope for her. I think she is set in her ways. It is my 'hope' that abuse is less tolerated now and there are more avenues to get out of bad situations early and therapy to deal with such trama. However, there are always some who fall through the cracks and that is unfortunate.
I can't fix it, all I can do is plan to buy some broken flower pots on Sat.
She sounds like a broken woman but has something to offer. She's peaked your interest as there's 'something' about her - And, she's obviously intrigued by you.
I'm not saying be wonderful friends, but this is someone who you've connected with on some level and obviously you understand her (and she knows this too) so just go with the flow.
You could make a big difference in her life, even if it's only seeing her once every few weeks.
She sounds like a broken woman but has something to offer. She's peaked your interest as there's 'something' about her - And, she's obviously intrigued by you.
I'm not saying be wonderful friends, but this is someone who you've connected with on some level and obviously you understand her (and she knows this too) so just go with the flow.
You could make a big difference in her life, even if it's only seeing her once every few weeks.
I went. My special friend went with me, and that was pretty cool of him.
I bought a candle, that turned out to formerly belong to another friend of mine that was gifted to this lady a long time ago. I kind of knew she did this, and hey, whatever you gotta do. I did have a good laugh with my friend about her recycled religious candle.
My friend even bought some things.
All in all, she got a few bucks and that is good for her.
Everyone in this area knows her. It was good to be a little more enlightened into why she may be the way that she is. She even reflected about her confession later, which I found to be rather sane.
I don't want to be her wonderful friend, but she does have a barbed wire way of making herself known. I'll silently look out for her, as I'm sure several others are as well. I'll acknowledge her in public, but I won't get too invested.
It is ashame though. Instances like this call for that time machine.
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