[electric_sheep]

Trying to find some material to motivate my girlfriend, and I stumbled on this article, which talks about why we don't exercise. It's written from the perspective of someone suffering from depression, but still an interesting read:

http://www.psycheducation.org/hormon...n/exercise.htm

[StartingOver07]

ES - I think your intentions are very good but I also think the motivation has to come from inside your gf. I think everyone knows when they are overweight and I also think most people know what to do to lose weight. Sadly, I think most people don't really want to be fit more than they want to continue in the same pattern.

Yes, there are exceptions, and I am sure a few people will pop in and offer their truly inspiring tales. But you have only to spend an afternoon at a mall or survey the typical college campus to see that statistics claiming that 65% of Americans are overweight are true. And that doesn't even begin to address fitness.

[shanny]

Hi ES. I responded to your other post about your girlfirend. You are posting a lot about this so it is obviously bothering you greatly. You either need to talk to her seriously about it and try to help her or move on and find someone who shares your views of fitness and wellness.

I know you love her but you are torturing yourself with your feelings towards her emotionally and your feelings towards her sexually. The two don't match anymore. I don't care what anyone says... sex is important, very very important. If you are not sexually attracted to her that is not fair to either one of you. The ideal relationship is between two people that love each other for who they are and also want to jump their bones at a moment's notice. You are robbing yourself and her of this ideal situation.

Just think... you could be with someone wonderful who you are attracted to and she could be with someone who loves her curves. By hanging on and trying to be a good person (people probably call you a bad person for not being attracted to her because of the weight... you are not by the way) you are both missing out on some of the greatest things in life.

If you cannot get through to her to take care of herself I think it's best to just end it.

[Trialbyfire]

Getting into shape and losing weight requires both a strong desire to do so and discipline. The only person who can provide these two motivational forces is herself.

The more you push her, the less she's going to want to do it and the more self-esteem issues she will acquire. Just look at all the teenage girls who've grown up with critical parents and the baggage this has caused.

[PWSX3]

Everyone wants things quick, we don't want to wait anymore. We have fast food, fast this & fast that & losing weight isn't something that happens overnight.

I agree with the others your GF knows she is overweight but until she does something about it there is nothing you can do but piss her off by pushing material on to her.

I have to use myself as an example, my wife is 5'6" and over 250 pounds so she is way overweight. I was doing the same thing you are trying but it just pissed her off.

We were separated for 6 months (back together now) & in that 6 months I realized how fat I was getting, just being a couch potato so I did something about it. I lost 60 pounds myself so she sees the change in me, but that still isn't enough motivation for her to do something about her weight.

I even tried showing her that her health is in danger, she is also on blood pressure medicine, but it didn't help. I see how bad she eats & I even tried fixing better meals for the two of us, but she doesn't like many things that are good for you.

Unless they want to do something about it there is nothing you can do. It will drive you crazy so I feel you have two options.
1) decide if the positive & joy your g/f gives you is worth putting up with her weight?
2) you will have to break up with her. Don't know how old you are but you also have to remember as people get older they also add on pounds so there is a good chance she will get even bigger. (just something to think about)