On Thursday I start a new part time job. I'll be working for a school for boys that couldn't make it in a normal school. It's been a year and a half since I've taken a job outside my home (I work from my computer doing online marketing). I feel kind of rusty when it comes to having co-workers. When I first get around a large group of people, I tend to be more shy and quiet - and often gets taken as stuck up. I don't want to be viewed like this, so I was wondering if anyone had any ideas for me.
Take an interest in other people. Ask them how long they have been working there, have they got any tips for a newbie, stuff like that.
People like to be asked their opinions on things, especially by newbies at their workplace, it makes them feel important!
They also like it if you remember things about them- for example: if they tell you their Hs name, and you remember it the next time you have a conversation, it shows you actually listened to them.
I agree with sb129. Also, if you have time, pick up and read Dale Carnegie's How To Win Friends And Influence People. It's written mainly from the perspective of business relationships.
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I also get to overcome the fact that there are several people who don't think I'll be able to hack it there. I'm a small girl, and because I'm attractive a lot of these boys are going to be pining on me (not my words, I got told this). They aren't sure if I'll be able to handle these boys, and what not... and apparently there are several women who get threatened by new female hires. I don't want to come off as a threat, but I do want to be able to prove myself to my new boss and what not. There's only about 30 employees. There's also several single men in my age bracket, but no other girls in my age bracket. I'm just sooooo nervous, and excited, but still sooooo nervous lol.
Nothing says "I'm approachable" more than a smile. However, be aware of the company you are doing it in and make sure that you aren't overly friendly. Overly friendly women tend to have their boundaries trounced upon because they "don't want to be rude."
Overall, you really just need to be yourself. That way, people who like you for who you are will end up being close friends while those who are friends for "what they can get" will weed themselves out.
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