[dreamer41]

Work's been crazy the past few months. Lots of unpleasant things happened during that time. Some coworkers turned the place upside down by being manipulative, in additon to other things that were going on there at the time. There was so much backstabbing that you didn't know what to believe. I heard a lot of crap about everyone (that they said came from the boss)- caused me to not trust some of my coworkers. They just played stupid mind games in order to hurt and belittle people. I constantly considered switching jobs. I can ignore stuff like that, but the nastiness got really bad. Hard to put on a smile and have to work with these people. I felt powerless at work. A few people got tired of all the issues at work and left. Finally had to voice my concerns to keep from leaving. Since then things have changed a bit, and I can now say I enjoy my job. I like the group that I work with.

Problem is that I feel my boss has more or less avoiding me for the past few weeks. He hasn't been mean about it or anything, but there is obviously an issue. That's what I think anyway. Sure, could just ignore it, but I want to have a positive relationship with my boss. I'd like to know what the problem is and what steps I could take to resolve it. I know that it has to do with the nasty situation from the past few months. I don't think that it will be a good idea to ask him about it. But how else can I found out? I hope that it can be resolved. I would love to stay at my job, but don't really see how I could stay there if my boss is isolating himself from me. Isn't that one of the signs that you should leave your job? I don't know if my boss could ever know how horrible that situation was and how it left everyone affected feeling terrible. All that stuff is over and in the past. Time to move on and enjoy my job, but maybe this is his way of telling me I need to find another job. Who knows. Any thoughts?

[Trialbyfire]

When you voiced your concerns, was this to your boss, above him or to H/R?

[dreamer41]

This was to the boss. Boss said he didn't do anything and that things would change. The coworkers who quit said that the boss was lying about everything. Didn't know who to believe and didn't have proof either way. I was objective and gave the boss the benefit of the doubt. He seemed like he wanted to change things.

[Trialbyfire]

Originally Posted by dreamer41

This was to the boss. Boss said he didn't do anything and that things would change. The coworkers who quit said that the boss was lying about everything. Didn't know who to believe and didn't have proof either way. I was objective and gave the boss the benefit of the doubt. He seemed like he wanted to change things.

I would have a friendly sit-down with him and say, "Hey, I've noticed some tension and wanted to see if there's anything I could do to help." or something like this. This way, you're showing positive team spirit, without pointing fingers.

[dreamer41]

Originally Posted by Trialbyfire

I would have a friendly sit-down with him and say, "Hey, I've noticed some tension and wanted to see if there's anything I could do to help." or something like this. This way, you're showing positive team spirit, without pointing fingers.

Yeah, that's an idea, if the boss even wants to discuss it though. I wonder why he didn't just approach me if there's an issue. When I avoid someone it's because I don't want to bring something up with them. That's just me. Just a thought, but I kinda get the feeling that the boss thinks I did too much complaining. I've put the past behind me and just want to move on and do my job.

[dreamer41]

A friend suggested that maybe my boss thinks I'm avoiding him. I never thought about that. I'm not and am fine with everything at work, except for the isolation part. Maybe there is just some miscommunication. I don't know. I am interested in hearing any responses.