[barefoot880]

Do you believe it's possible to let the right woman get away because I don't want to get married? Why or why not? Some would say that if I found the right person then my views on marriage would change. I don't know.

Has anyone here regretted not marrying someone? Do you know anyone who lives with the regret of not marrying someone?

[Walk]

What are/were the reason for why you didn't want to marry the woman your talking about? Were they (in your opinion) the right reasons, and what would constitute a "right" reason in your mind? Meaning, do those reasons reflect who you would wish to be in an ideal world?

[carhill]

If she wanted to get married and you didn't, then she wasn't the right person at the right time for you. I'm assuming you didn't want to get married because of you, not because of her.

Regrets? None from personal experience as I haven't had a bevy of women chasing me to marry them

I always wanted to be married and to have a family, so I have a hard time identifying with a fellow man who does not. IMO, wanting to be married comes from within you and the process is selecting the right partner. It has nothing to do with "views changing". If you like having a woman around but don't want to be married, be honest. There are women out there who feel exactly like you do. Hope it works out for you.

[YeahBaby]

Yes it is possible.

I was with 'the one' for two years, then broke up with him. I don't think he wants to be with me anymore.

We had talked in great length about marriage, and it has now occurred to be that he was my true love, and I now know that I will never get married, unless it is to him.

[Ronni_W]

Originally Posted by barefoot880

Do you believe it's possible to let the right woman get away because I don't want to get married?

Isn't it more important to figure out if YOU believe that is what you are doing (or thinking of doing)?
And then, to explore what are your beliefs about marriage that would compel you to act, one way or another?

What negative changes do you expect? Are those expectations realistic FOR THE TWO OF YOU?
What positive changes would you like? Are THOSE, realistic for the two of you?
What are the fears about marriage, that this woman will help to make real?
Are there any dreams that this woman can help to come true?
As a couple, do you have the insights and relationship skills to celebrate all your successes and support each other through any challenge?

Those are the types of questions I'd contemplate, with intention of finding answers from within.

[pr-girl]

Originally Posted by YeahBaby

Yes it is possible.

I was with 'the one' for two years, then broke up with him. I don't think he wants to be with me anymore.

We had talked in great length about marriage, and it has now occurred to be that he was my true love, and I now know that I will never get married, unless it is to him.

Can I ask why you broke up with him then?

[sugarsoul]

Originally Posted by barefoot880

Do you believe it's possible to let the right woman get away because I don't want to get married? Why or why not? Some would say that if I found the right person then my views on marriage would change. I don't know.

Has anyone here regretted not marrying someone? Do you know anyone who lives with the regret of not marrying someone?

based on my friends experiences and my own, i feel there really isn't any one right person for anyone, only the right person at the right time. because, after all people change throughout their life. Needs and preferences of a gf/bf may change.

the best is to find someone who has the same career/life goals, similar values and beliefs, that way they are more likely to change with you

[sugarsoul]

i am also aware there is a possibility that some people may regret letting their gf/bf go, but it could be possible that they haven't met anyone worth while yet so the urge to hold on to the past is a lot more intense.