over the last few days i really saw how attracted i am to my coworker. i hope it's not too late because i think i might have offended him. i finally asked myself if he has feelings for me and i have feelings for him, then why shouldn't we act on them? it's been awhile now and, in my opinion, the feelings have only gotten deeper and stronger. how can i move things along or at least find out where things stand? wish that he could give some type of clear signal or make some type of move. i enjoy talking to and being around him. he's a genuinely nice man and a friendship/relationship away from work, even if only short-lived, would be something wonderful that neither of us probably expected.
Coworker dating can be a major problem because of 1) too much togetherness if you see each other every day at work as well as dating, 2) conflict of interest in your interactions at work, and 3) bad, bad, bad scene if you break-up and have to see each other work every day.
As to how to move things along, kick up the flirting a notch. If he is truly into you, he'll ask you out.
I don't think it's ever too late, especially if you feel strongly about him. I think the same thing is happening to me with a beautiful girl I'm worked around for the last few years. She is absolutely gorgeous, very wonderful personality and single. We email here and there, but not on a personal level, the only person level would be her saying that she thinks I'm "a sweet guy." And I've complimented her as well unlike the desperate forceful types.
i was unneccesarily harsh with and overly critical of him when he was only trying to do his best. i'm sure that i hurt his feelings. i wish that i could take back some of the things that i said. hopefully, he won't hold this against me forever. i went too far with my criticism. i feel like crying and don't know how to bring things back to the way they were before i messed up. i know it happened at work but i suppose that i care so much about what happened because i care for him so much. i don't know what, if anything, to say to him about it. i am single, he is not.
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