[confused20]

I am a college student who is currently very much interested in a gorgeous girl in my Chemistry laboratory. I am very shy and insecure and she is perfect so it is extremely difficult to speak with her. I am also very nervous in a lab environment. During the whole semester I have attempted to say hello to her and she has been very polite to say hello back. I have thus far only had brief conversations with her. However, last week was a big week because for the first time she approached me to see how my experiment was going. She was very nice to me and shook my hand when I finally asked for her name and gave her mine. She also told me to have a good weekend. This is the first time that she has showed me attention. How do I speak to her and what topics should I speak about? How nice should I treat her? Should I give her many compliments on how perfect she is or avoid this? I am extremely frightened around people, especially perfect looking girls like her and am socially inept. I have never spoken to a woman so I need advice on how to act. Please Help!!!!! Any input would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

[beachsts]

Chemistry eh? :P If you'd like to approach her and talk, maybe try talking about something relevant to class or a project. Just some small talk will make you more comfortable in talking to her. When you're comfortable talking to her conversation will come naturally.I wouldn't recommend any heavy compliments such as "you're perfect". You could possibly spend time with her by going to the library to study together or similar, or if you have the opportunity to work on something together for class. When you guys are talking more you might want to ask her to do something non-school related.. maybe a date! :P I also suffer from some social anxiety. Just remember, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Cheers,
Chris

[Lucasarts]

hmmm well since you have no experience talking to girls (which is a shame) I'd suggest starting small before trying to hit a home run here. It's hard to offer any helpful advice on how to talk to a girl that makes you socially dysfunctional; the best thing to do is really to start talking to all girls. That is really the only and best way to become more comfortable and at ease with them, plus you'll realize that girls are quite interesting and informative aside from being attractive. The fact that you can say hello and have a brief interaction with this "perfect" looking girl is a good start; however don't interpret her friendliness with her liking you a lot right away. She probably talks to many guys several times a day, and quite honestly if she is as perfect looking as you say, she can pick and choose whomever she likes. I wouldn't suggest a date if you can't even start a friendly conversation with her yet. . . thats just setting yourself up for failure; which is fine, but lets try to build up your ego and confidence first so it won't be so damaging.

So, in a few sentences what I'm trying to say is this:

Talk to every girl that you can, no matter how ugly or hot; the more you go out there and just make small talk with them, the better you'll be when you want to pursue a girl you really like.

good luck man, and don't sweat this one out yet; its not worth it, regardless of how beautiful this girl is.

[mixwell]

I would suggest reading some material by David DeAngelo or checking out some pickup artist type material online... Mainly to improve your inner game.. The main thing is just approach her and be funny and interesting. The thing most guys do that is a no no is they aren't a challenge.. Women like a challenge and the moment they know they have you defeated they get bored and uninterested.. The first thing you should do is when approaching her don't put her (or any other female) on a pedastal.. See yourself as the catch and if she isn't interested then its her loss.. If you want to shoot me an e-mail and I can hook you up with some cool information.. my e-mail is Mixwell1983 @ Gmail .com

PS> Don't focus all of your effort on 1 girl.. As much as you've heard it " There are plenty of fish in the sea" This couldn't be any more true.. Another tip is when you do get rejected by women try to think of it as a learning experience.. The worst thing you can do is blame yourself.. After all at the time you approach a woman there could be many reasons why she isn't interested in you from a recent breakup to other things going on in her life.

[wookinpanub]

ohhhh if only it were bio! then you could bust out the "I wish I were DNA Helicase so that I could unzip your genes (jeans)!"