[notgoodatthis]

I posted this in another area and someone suggested I would get more exposure in this area. I apologize in advance to those who already responded. I appreciate your honest thoughts.

Ok, she cheated on me when she went on a cruise. When she came home, she dumped me for the guy. I guess things didn't work out so she came back into my life wanting another chance. I was so tempted until she told me she got Herpes from the guy. I have been trying to come to grips with the situation because I can tell she is sorry and has changed.

What do you think? It's one thing to date someone with Herpes but it's another to take someone back to got it while cheating on that person. Believe me, I have given this considerable thought over the last couple of months

[Siphon9a]

Originally Posted by notgoodatthis

I posted this in another area and someone suggested I would get more exposure in this area. I apologize in advance to those who already responded. I appreciate your honest thoughts.

Ok, she cheated on me when she went on a cruise. When she came home, she dumped me for the guy. I guess things didn't work out so she came back into my life wanting another chance. I was so tempted until she told me she got Herpes from the guy. I have been trying to come to grips with the situation because I can tell she is sorry and has changed.

What do you think? It's one thing to date someone with Herpes but it's another to take someone back to got it while cheating on that person. Believe me, I have given this considerable thought over the last couple of months

I don't know about you but in a situation like this, I'd just cut my losses. She cheated and left you for the guy. Now she's coming back to her comfort zone so she can feel secure. Stand up for yourself and find someone that will respect you as a person and as a person in a committed relationship. She has shown you the most disrespect a person can by cheating and then leaving you for the guy only to come crawling back, not to mention with something you can't wash off. Find someone trustworthy and will care for you the way you care for her. Obviously you care for her if your giving thought into taking her back. There;s a good girl out there that would love for a guy to feel that strongly about her. Your ex took you for granted. That's her bad and now she should have to live with the consequences of her disrepect towards you.

[MimiMe]

you better stay away from this person. She cheated and got Herpes while at it. Bounce honey! Bounce now while you can!!

Not worth getting sick.

[Legend]

When you cheat, you get infected. She's scum, don't let her make you think twice.

[pinkrazr]

I hope i dont get a ton of hate responses from this.
But what I am going to say, is this girl cheated on you. she knew what she was doing, she didnt care much except for that moment.
Now it was crushed for her. its over. so now she pulls the "i'm sorry, i miss you by the way i have herpes take me back" crap.
now... wrong with this... she did it, she knew it, then left you for him.
stupid.
it doesnt work out, so she thinks she can pull the "i made a mistake" line.
stupid.
she wanted her cake and to eat it too. and obviously is a great manipulator if your willing to take her back after she made the "mistake of leaving you for someone else".
dont be stupid.
she thought she can do whatever, for however it can last. it didnt. so she knew she can get you back to her. till the next guy comes along so she can pull the same "mistake".
it's never a mistake, not when she leaves you for someone else.
dont put your health in place of love. and in-curable infection that is painful and costs alot of money to keep at bay. and when shes gone again, you still have it. forever.
Shes nto worth it. at all. you need someone that respects you the way you respect them.
Please dont hurt yourself emotionally and psychically with this!

[Siphon9a]

Originally Posted by pinkrazr

I hope i dont get a ton of hate responses from this.
But what I am going to say, is this girl cheated on you. she knew what she was doing, she didnt care much except for that moment.
Now it was crushed for her. its over. so now she pulls the "i'm sorry, i miss you by the way i have herpes take me back" crap.
now... wrong with this... she did it, she knew it, then left you for him.
stupid.
it doesnt work out, so she thinks she can pull the "i made a mistake" line.
stupid.
she wanted her cake and to eat it too. and obviously is a great manipulator if your willing to take her back after she made the "mistake of leaving you for someone else".
dont be stupid.
she thought she can do whatever, for however it can last. it didnt. so she knew she can get you back to her. till the next guy comes along so she can pull the same "mistake".
it's never a mistake, not when she leaves you for someone else.
dont put your health in place of love. and in-curable infection that is painful and costs alot of money to keep at bay. and when shes gone again, you still have it. forever.
Shes nto worth it. at all. you need someone that respects you the way you respect them.
Please dont hurt yourself emotionally and psychically with this!

As cliche as it sounds even Marilyn Manson had it right in one of his songs. "I'm not in love, but I'm gonna **** you, till somebody better comes along." Just leave her be and find someone who will respect you.

[Covonia]

This is another sign that Karma exists, just move on and tell her where to get off.

[shanny]

You were her back up plan. You deserve better.

[notgoodatthis]

I appreciate each and every post. Thanks for being honest. Every time I read a response, I see things in a whole new light. Keep it coming!

[Melvll]

Let her go. Let this be a life lesson for her.. Its going to be rough, hard but really she took you for granted.. you deserve so much better.

[pinkrazr]

Hang in there notgood,
I really hope you took the advice.
These forums have helped me and I can speak for most of us on here with everyones real responses.
You sound like such a sweet person.
keep me posted, If things get ugly you know we're all here for eachother.

[Woggle]

Dump her and tell her karma's a female dog. Move on with your life knowing full well you are healthy and you plan to stay that way.

[Pikaia]

Yeah, I would not let her come back into your life. 99% of the time, cheating is a relationship killer. Very few can bounce back, due to most cheaters always being cheaters.

Secondly, she has herpes. Don't put your health at risk. This is her problem now and you need to protect yourself.

[MimiMe]

Originally Posted by Covonia

This is another sign that Karma exists, just move on and tell her where to get off.

Word!! it's like burn by trial. Good for the cheater, can't even lie about it.

[Darth Vader]

There's no way I can disagree with anyone on this Thread so far! Drop the chic, or whatever she is! If she cheated once, she'll do it again, maybe next time it will be AIDS! DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HER! EEEEWWWW!!!!