Women, would you be upset with an inexpensive ring?
For any of the female posters,, would you be upset with a very inexpensive engagement ring? First off, let me say that I'm NOT upset and this didn't bother me but several of my female friends (married and not not married) have expressed that they feel it was wrong of my fiance to do this. The ring he got me was from a chain jewelry store. It is a single stone and 1/5 ct diamond. It is very small and "cute" is the only way to describe it. Now I've been engaged before and the ring was gorgeous 1.5 ct that cost about $2000. however obviously that relationship didn't last. Also that bf put the ring on credit and paid it off.
I love my fiance and know he doesn't have a lot of money. He works a $12 hr job and has a son who lives with him and gets no child support. He has his rent payment and car payment and insurance and groceries and other bills. He has NO credit cards. He did get a large tax return this year (4000 dollars) and he used part of that to buy the ring. The ring cost only $300. He basically as my friends put it, picked out the cheapest engagement ring that the store sold. My argument is that it is a real diamond and he didn't buy it from Wal-mart or something ha ha. I should point out that my fiance basically lived his whole life in poverty (his parents both work $7 hr jobs or so.)
I'm not concerned about the ring, because its HIM that I love (and his son) so its not like I have to love the ring. I just love the idea that we will be married and I'm excited about that fact. Most of my friends who are married have gorgeous rings that their husbands saved up for or paid off on credit. One has cubic zirconia that looks very real. Yes, I am not crazy about my ring, but I like what it represents. I told my fiance it is very pretty and delicate (which it is) and while I"m not jumping up and down to show it off (mostly because of people's reactions) I do want everyone to know we are getting married. My sister's reaction was probably the worst. she has a beautiful platinum ring (that her husband is probably still paying for!) and she said that my fiance didn't put much thought into it and just bought the cheapest thing he could find. In an ideal world I would have loved to pick out my own ring (I love white gold and three stone rings and you can get those for not much more than my fiance paid) but hey its him I love not the jewelry he buys me. Its just a symbol.
is there anyone here who would be upset with the most inexpensive ring in the store?
I wouldn't be upset in the least....I never received an engagement ring until my 25th wedding anniversary, and it was definitely worth the wait.
Someone will always have the bigger ring, bigger house, nicer car, but in the end, all that matters is the commitment that both of you make to each other.
I hate to say it, but I probably would be. Not because of the amount of money itself, but because of the quality of a $300 ring in comparison to a $2000 ring. A piece of jewelery you will wear every day for the rest of your life needs to go the distance. I also think it should be something which should be bought together.
But I think we would both agree that your relationship is worth far more then a ring. I am rather surprised that people have said such harsh things. If I were you I'd let them know their opinions are not appreciated
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I wouldn't be upset, I actually prefer a less expensive ring. I would be concerned about marrying a man that makes only $12/hr though. Not because I want a man's money but I would feel scared that all the financial responsibilities and emergencies would fall on me. So I guess I want a cheap ring, but from a man that could afford a more expensive one
I have two positions on this topis. The primary position is that the ring is not important, and I don't need one. What is important is finding the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, who wants the same with me (that appears to be the issue I am having).
Having said all that - I have big fingers, so a "delicate" (I like that adjective, much better than small - thx!) ring will not look good. I do not want a ring that will not look good - it would be a waste of money. So if my fiance could not afford a ring then I would prefer he not buy one.
I don't even have an engagement ring, I have a nice wedding band with decent sized diamonds & rubies in it. It cost about $800 I think, but my hubby's mom works at a jeweler so probably would have been more.
If you don't like the ring, he should take it back and you can put the money into getting a nicer wedding band when the time comes. People used to get engaged all the time without having to have some giant rock on their finger.
There is no point in having a ring you don't like, especially when it sounds like your fiancee would rather you have said let's skip it. Hence buying the least expensive ring they had.
Really, I have been engaged before and had a big engagement ring, they get caught on stuff and are a pain in the a$$. The stones in my band are invisible set, it's flat and smooth on top, I can do everything with it on, the only time I take it off is to put lotion on. Literally.
The marriage is what counts and I know you love your fiancee and his son. That should be cause for celebration enough - don't let other people's expectations of being engaged (having a ring) sway what you think you should do.
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In fact, if I had to pick I'd actually prefer an inexpensive ring. There are more important things we could spend the money on. Besides, the ring is a symbol for the connection between your hearts and minds -- not your joint banks accounts.
I think sometimes people get really caught up in how gestures like that "should be" because of the way they're presented to us by the media and popular culture. We buy into this romantic balogna and then get disappointed when real life doesn't feel like a movie.
So the important thing really is that you're happy with it. And you are. So everyone who's telling you not to be can all go take a flying leap. ^_^
You could always buy/have a wrap made as your wedding band that will have a stone on each side. That way you can have the three stone look once you are married.
Nope. I'd be upset if he bought me an expensive ring. Both my fiance and I make decent money, but I'd much rather that cash go toward our downpayment, our wedding, or my stepson-to-be's possible college fund, depending on his grades! It's all about priorities.
When we decided that he would get me my own ring (originally were going to use family heirloom), I went ahead and picked out the stone I wanted, the setting, and let him take care of the rest. I went with a .63 ct flawless, all-natural and untreated white sapphire in a replica Tiffany white gold setting. I get compliments on it and it distracts me while I drive . Cost? <$500.
They say it's the thought that counts. He bought you a ring! He wants to spend the rest of his life with you! Your friends are rude for even bringing up the ring. What about his proposal? What wasn't heartfelt about that?
On the other hand, I'd have been upset if my fiance had bought a ring without consulting me. We both acknowledge that I am better at doing research and finding the best bang for my buck. I'd hate to have ended up with something of lower quality that he'd spent MORE money on.
I wouldn't be upset, I actually prefer a less expensive ring. I would be concerned about marrying a man that makes only $12/hr though. Not because I want a man's money but I would feel scared that all the financial responsibilities and emergencies would fall on me. So I guess I want a cheap ring, but from a man that could afford a more expensive one
Well we live in a small-town area where there aren't many jobs. Most people are making about $8 hr in non-professional jobs. My aunt has been a teacher for almost 30 years here in she only makes about $38,000 yr!! Nurses here make $14-$20 hr. Another aunt has been an RN for almost 20 yrs and she moved to Vegas about twelve years ago and was making over $50 hr as an RN. SHe recently moved back here and found that she can only make about $20 hr here in that same job (and most hospitals here only have part time openings to start!) I don't make much more money than my fiance and I have a bachelors degree. I do have excellent health insurance though and so does he so that helps. At what I make I can take care of myself, I have 2 cars (one paid off) and one that I bought new a year ago and pay my rent (have a roommate) and all my bills and all that. My fiance so far has taken care of him and his son without government assistance or child support or anything. He just paid off his truck (with his tax return money) and paid three months of his rent. So right now all his bills are just utilitites and groceries and car insurance. So I'm not too worried.
My ex fiance works in a $90,000 yr job. Now he was just starting this job a few years after we started dating (he was in college when we started dating) and didn't make nearly that much money but I knew he would someday. Am I sorry I'm not with him because he makes decent money? Nope not at all. I still talk to him sometimes and he has a nice house (I've seen pictures) and three vehicles and is still single and all he does is complain about how he never has any money.
As far as the ring is concerned, no, its not my favorite. Even if it cost $3000 instead of 300 I wouldn't have chosen it for myself. I was just suprised by the reactions of some of my friends and family members.
As far as the ring is concerned, no, its not my favorite. Even if it cost $3000 instead of 300 I wouldn't have chosen it for myself. I was just suprised by the reactions of some of my friends and family members.
You attitude is right, frankly the people who gave negative reactions are simply rude!
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So, no, you're crazy. lol
. Cost? <$500.
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