So, yesterday, as I was doing what I do at work...which as a receptionist is pretty much nothing, my bf aimed me. After some idle chat about how his mom is at his place for the week, and me saying it'll be a sad week since I wont be able to see him, he asked me to come over last night, to meet his mother...right then and there....
So, ok time for quick background. BF is Indian, born and raised there. For him his family is extremely important, and has never brought a girl home, not even as a friend. At the begining he told me he would only bring a girl he seriously thought of to marry. I accepted that and never pushed him to introduce me to his family.
So sometime in December he told me he was thinking of introducing me to his older brother, which he did on New Year's Eve. Then last saturday he told me he wanted to move the relationship forward but that he needed the full support of his family (since im not Indian, his mom has some reservations about the culture etc). He told me he wanted me to meet his parents, but didnt mention as to when.
...and then I guess he wanted to do that sooner than i expected.
Anyway, total nervewrecking thing. I could also tell he was VERY nervous...since as he puts it, its very very important for him that his family accept me. He feels like he couldnt handle the stress of his mom or whole family nagging him about who he is with.
To my surprise his mom turned out to be very modern...well more than I expected, and very nice. However she did make comments and questions that alluded as to what she wanted for his son (no divorce, close family, someone who can take good care of him...a bit old fashioned, but expected). Anyway, overall, it went pretty ok...She gave us some food and encouraged me to try new food.
Now, I did my best to put the best foot forward...yet that made me feel a bit...fake. Like...even though i loved the food, telling her I loved it made me feel like i was kissing A**. ( I did anyway). Just felt like i was trying too hard to impress her...though I dont know why i feel that way. I just talked to her, asked her about her upcoming trip etc.
Anyway, so at the end of the night my bf walked me down to my car. He commented that I did alright. I joked that i didnt know i was being graded, he laughed, then said that it wasnt that, it was more like...it could have been worse
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I asked him what he meant, and then he said "nothing, lets just see what she thinks". THat made me nervous. So i continued asking if i should have done something differently, and he said "well, no, it is what it is, at least you didnt say the wrong things". I was kinda shocked. It sorta made me feel like i did something wrong that i wasnt aware of. (I didnt touch him/kiss him/hug him at all btw). He wouldnt tell me what I did wrong, nor can I think about it.
Im wondering if i truly did something wrong, or if he was just nervous and felt insecured of what his mom would think of me....??
. There will be other meetings and events and you'll participate. Be yourself. Your BF loves you, not an automated response to his family. They'll likely challenge you. Composure 
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