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Old 7th March 2008, 10:41 PM   #1
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Question HETROSEXUAL ATTRACTION-is this a boring concept God invented???

JUST OUT OF CURIOUSITY:
HETROSEXUAL ATTRACTION-IS IT WORTH THE CHALLENGE????

Does anyone ever feel the sexuality between man and woman are just plain BORING? I see so many posts on LS about hetrosexual relationships that are the same thing all the time. They're all cliches. Sometimes I think there's more LOGIC to being with the same sex only. If you're with the same sex, you both know what you want. Yet, there's so much more beyond that. Here we are spending our lives (hetrosexuals only) thinking about why the man or woman is doing something we don't like or understand. Doesn't it make more sense to be with the same sex?

Just a deep thought and seeking opinions-nothing more. So what do you people think?

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Old 8th March 2008, 2:24 AM   #2
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JUST OUT OF CURIOUSITY:
HETROSEXUAL ATTRACTION-IS IT WORTH THE CHALLENGE????

Does anyone ever feel the sexuality between man and woman are just plain BORING? I see so many posts on LS about hetrosexual relationships that are the same thing all the time. They're all cliches. Sometimes I think there's more LOGIC to being with the same sex only. If you're with the same sex, you both know what you want. Yet, there's so much more beyond that. Here we are spending our lives (hetrosexuals only) thinking about why the man or woman is doing something we don't like or understand. Doesn't it make more sense to be with the same sex?

Just a deep thought and seeking opinions-nothing more. So what do you people think?
Well, given that propogation of the species requires sexual interaction between genders, I don't know if I would say it makes "more sense."

I don't find heterosexuality to be "boring" - quite the opposite. It may well be frustrating, mystifying, bewildering at times, but I see these as "side effects" of the evolutionarily beneficial differences between the genders. And I, personally, am willing to swim upstream against that current both for the challenge and rewards of the journey itself, and for the goal of eventually reaching a suitable spawning ground.
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Old 8th March 2008, 2:31 AM   #3
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I think the predictability of being with someone of the same sex would be even more boring.

Plus, Tab A doesn't fit into Slot B.

What does God have to do with it? Can you elaborate on that?
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Old 8th March 2008, 7:46 AM   #4
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I don't find sex boring. Then again, I find sex to be more than just the mechanics. I've been with women and been bored, and I've been with men and been bored. It is the attraction of the individual, and the 'dance' of seduction, and the discovery of the new that keeps it from being boring.

If sex is nothing more to someone than mechanical wet pumping, then I guess it would be boring.
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Old 8th March 2008, 9:37 AM   #5
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IMO, I dont find heterosexual boring. Why would I want to be with someone who has the same physical make up as me? The same mentality, emotions, etc.? That's why opposite pole attracts because our differences is what make us real attractive and interesting. But when you talk about sexuality, then that's very different matter. I haven't experience any same sex relationship yet so I can't really judge though it doesn't matter if I can experience it or not coz I'm straight but opposite sex attracts me in so many ways. The more different they are, the more intriguing they become and the deeper I want to get to know them.

I totally agreed with Storyrider heheheh

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Old 8th March 2008, 9:47 AM   #6
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Do you want a cliche?

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JUST OUT OF CURIOUSITY:
HETROSEXUAL ATTRACTION-IS IT WORTH THE CHALLENGE????

Does anyone ever feel the sexuality between man and woman are just plain BORING? I see so many posts on LS about hetrosexual relationships that are the same thing all the time. They're all cliches.
Here's one for you. God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.

Now that we've gotten that out of the way, if you ain't up to the challenge then you don't belong in the game.

Don't know what you've been bedding but I've "indulged" in strictly heterosexual sex for over 40 years and have never been bored by it. With any amount of luck I'm still good for another quarter century.
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Old 8th March 2008, 4:55 PM   #7
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I think it's naive to assume that because two people are of the same gender that they will automatically understand each other. I have female friends that totally mystify me at times.
As for heterosexuality being boring, I think it depends on the couple. If you have a boring man and a boring woman and put them together, then maybe.
Last night, for fun, my h dressed up in my lingerie and I wore his suit. He then proceeded to give me a few table dances ("payback" for when he did this for real and didn't tell me about it). Since his technique was a little humdrum, I gave him a striping lesson. And then nature took it's course, in the kitchen and the living room. Does that sound boring to you?
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Old 8th March 2008, 5:31 PM   #8
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Ummmm...

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Does that sound boring to you?
...pehaps not boring but from my perspective, decidedly contrived and wussy on his part, dominant on yours.

Whatever floats your boat, but crossing gender lines would seem to indicate confusion on both your parts, or get-back as you describe it. Neither seems particularly healthy.
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Old 8th March 2008, 5:41 PM   #9
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...pehaps not boring but from my perspective, decidedly contrived and wussy on his part, dominant on yours.

Whatever floats your boat, but crossing gender lines would seem to indicate confusion on both your parts, or get-back as you describe it. Neither seems particularly healthy.
Maybe payback is too strong a word. It really felt more like playtime
And as far as confusion goes, I certainly don't feel confused. It was like playing dress up as a kid, except with sex. It was just fun, not the expression of some pent-up need.
And by the way, the majority of our sexual interaction is pretty straightforward and "normal", whatever that means. But we are both fairly imaginative folk (one of the reasons I love him), so now and then, it's nice to get a little creative with the role-playing. I know for us, this is a very healthy outlet. Wouldn't work for everyone, though.
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Old 8th March 2008, 8:17 PM   #10
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I actually gag at the thought of being with a woman and only watch male gay porn lmao the tarts in the big heels and fake wide apart boobies put me off with the screaming .

Men's bodies are beautiful why would I enjoy to be with a woman instead? and she doesn't have any equipment or the weight behind said equipment lol and smell of a man .
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Old 8th March 2008, 8:26 PM   #11
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I actually gag at the thought of being with a woman and only watch male gay porn lmao the tarts in the big heels and fake wide apart boobies put me off with the screaming .

Men's bodies are beautiful why would I enjoy to be with a woman instead? and she doesn't have any equipment or the weight behind said equipment lol and smell of a man .
lmao at your comment, "they put me off with the screaming". OMG you are so right! Nothing funnier to listen to than fake, for the money, pleasure.
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Old 8th March 2008, 9:45 PM   #12
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lmao at your comment, "they put me off with the screaming". OMG you are so right! Nothing funnier to listen to than fake, for the money, pleasure.
Ya mean they fake it? It's not real? You just burst my bubble. I was gonna go look for one who enjoyed _____ all that much!
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Old 8th March 2008, 10:13 PM   #13
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their is too much noise in porn, with the sound off its much better.
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Old 8th March 2008, 11:07 PM   #14
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why are we talking about porn again? Are we all pervs or something?
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Old 8th March 2008, 11:33 PM   #15
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Probably not!

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why are we talking about porn again? Are we all pervs or something?
Things just kinda "naturally" veered off course!
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