a few weeks ago my boyfriend was on craiglists.org after he was done with the computer I behind him to see what he was looking at. I found
out that he was chating with a Transexual!!!! I was taken back and sick
at the same time.. so I asked him about it and he said hes not gay he
was just looking at the pictures.. I had him pack his things rigth away
and sent him on his way.. we have been together for 2 1/2 years and
has really hurt me.. I LOVE this man with all my heart and I told him
that can cant allow him to put me at risk... he claims that he not gay
never been with a man and he was just curious.. is this possible???
is he curious or gay????? please advise
While you two definitely have things to sort out, you overreacted big time.
And yes, it's possible he's straight, gay, bi or anything in between. Sexuality isn't as easy to define as you think it is.
I agree.
He could have been simply curious. I have no clue what this tranny looked like, but think a minute....did she/he look like a woman? Many can appear as sexy as the best. His attraction does NOT mean he is interested in guys. In fact, he could be very much into girls.
Confession...I have see "women" that turned me on in porn...only to find out that they were trannies. Am I gay? Nope. Would I see out a tranny for a good time? Nope. That does not mean that those pictures didn't fool my body.
I cannot believe that you reacted how you did. Did you have other trust issues?
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james and enema thanks for replying back... I have never had any trust issues with him at all never.... he's a wonderful person and he has giving me the world. we both have been married before with one child each....
so we try really hard to be open with each other so this relationship will work. The reason why I acted that way is because I dont want to get a STD. I dont want to put my life in his hands... I feel bad but im hurt.. Jame i sure hope your right about him being curious because he's the love of my life and I would hate to give him up to a man. but why would he go into a chat room full of transexual????
Jame i sure hope your right about him being curious because he's the love of my life and I would hate to give him up to a man. but why would he go into a chat room full of transexual????
Who knows....but when I read it back and see the chatroom part, then this may be more than curiosity depending on what he was saying.
Remember...he committed to you. That means no one else...no men, no women, and no in betweens. So if you doubt his fidelity, then this goes beyond your feelings of his chatting with a tranny.
That what I was saying... I mean could he have just been fooling around in the chat room?? I asked my brother what he thought about it and he say's he wouldnt even think about going on to a transexual website cause hes not gay and he dont want to see another man dress up and talking nasty to him.. My ex- boyfriend just text me saying he needs to make me believe that he's not gay and that his soul was the devils play ground he
never did anything like that before and dont know why he was on the site
Im so confused... I cant even look him in the face I dont even want him
around me....
Well I put him out that day.. I haven't talked to him only text..... I'm so confused by the whole thing I just want him to tell me if he's gay or not
but I dont want him to lie and have me as his cover up...
Well I put him out that day.. I haven't talked to him only text..... I'm so confused by the whole thing I just want him to tell me if he's gay or not
but I dont want him to lie and have me as his cover up...
But he has told you right? He's said a few times that he wasn't. Is it that you just don't believe him?
People have a hard time coming out about things like this, and will only do it when they are ready. Whether it's him being merely curious, bi, or gay. Some may say anything to keep it a secret as they don't feel comfortable about other people knowing.
Sexuality is not a threshold like a line on the ground... it's more of a big scale, like a giant room. One wall is gay, the other wall is straight. Everybody falls somewhere in between. Most people are very close to one wall or the other, but some people fall closer to the middle. Some people fall exactly in the middle. It just depends. He loves YOU. This doesn't change anything about your relationship. Go to couples counseling together and figure this out.
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Hey thanks alot!!! couples counseling is not a bad Idea... and you are
right he do love me he move in with me a year ago and we lived at least and hour away from each other and he has been playing the roll of a father to my child for 2yrs... he's always been so good to me and Im
so hurt I dont know if I would have took it better if it was a woman or
what, but I will take your advice and seek counseling...
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.. so I asked him about it and he said hes not gay he
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