My ex has been waiting for me every night after college for six weeks and offering me lifts home and following me a little and I'm tempted to get back together. His class coincides with mine. Everyone else I know though is warning about this and calling him a stalker.
I still love him though and I think this is his way of showing me how he feels. I have college once a week.
What do you think please?
I would say make up your mind quickly! If you don't want to be with him and it's over for good, make it clear to him, you will have to have the guts to let him hate you. And if you do want to get back together you should and stop putting him through the misery.
If you want to be with him, you shouldn't listen to what other people are saying about him. If you've already been together, you should know his personality.
I know it's hard to break up with someone, especially if the haven't taken it too well, but you need to think about why you ended it in the first place
Thank you bessieboo...I do want to get back together with him really. It's just fear stopping me because he was a bit of a committment-phobe and wasn't over his ex before. But I guess I'm not likely to be rejected judging by his behaviour.
I am quite upset that everyone is calling him a creepy stalker now.
Thank you so much for your reply.
Love x
Last edited by Dear Lady Disdain; 9th November 2007 at 11:26 AM..
I totally agree with Bessie. If he's not doing anything seriously scary (like following you everywhere you go and emailing and calling you all the time), I wouldn't call him a stalker, I'd call him someone who's trying to show you he's committed. If you want to get back together with him, stop torturing him already! Tell him exactly why you're concerned about getting back together with him, see what he says, and if you're satisfied with the answer, go for it!
Thank you for your kind reply.
I don't mean to torture him, it's just I am scared of opening up to him. I'm scared of getting hurt. But I would love to be with him again.
I am sending him this email:Hi there...(name followed by pic of star) thanks for a nice drive - your new car's a beauty. See you next tuesday x
Does this sound okay. Then we can maybe reconcile...or maybe looking forward to seeing you on tueday? x
Before you send the email, ask yourself why you think people could be warning you against him. What reasons could they have for this? Do these people know any better, or less well than the people whose advice you just so readily took? Do you know the answers better than anyone?
I would say these 'friends' are probably more jelous than anything else, otherwise I'm not too sure why they would be conserned. I mean it doesn't sound as if he's doing anything than anyone else suffering from a broken heart hasn't done before him.
If you are going to back with him it might be an idea to start off slowly, allowing you and him some time to adjust to be back in the relationship.
Thank you everyone...he didn't treat me well before but he appears to be trying to show me he has changed his ways (also I pushed him away a little myself - I have intimacy issues) and I'm thinking maybe I should give him a chance.
He has a reputation around the college a bit but I don't really believe in judging people according to hearsay and rumours x
Last edited by Dear Lady Disdain; 9th November 2007 at 11:59 AM..
Thank you everyone...he didn't treat me well before but he appears to be trying to show me he has changed his ways (also I pushed him away a little myself - I have intimacy issues) and I'm thinking maybe I should give him a chance.
He has a reputation around the college a bit but I don't really believe in judging people according to hearsay and rumours x
How is he showing you he has changed?
Do you think people change rapidly?
How do you believe in judging people?
I know you are concerned from my previous post and I would write a lot more and answer all these questions but unfortunately I have to go out to work any minute now!
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