[tomásdoyle]

Hi Guys,
I hope you can take some time to help me out..
Ive had a very bad break up with my girlfriend of four years. we have lived with eachother since nearly day one. finished college together moved to the city together and rented together. I came home from business and was hit with the news she'd had time to think and i am not right for her and this is not going anywhere. it blew me apart as i was so in love and we always had such a connection. we stayed living together and she said when she moved out maybe we could try. but it was lies after a month she was gone and told me it was over. she still txted me constantly and rang saying this was so hard on her too and she crys constantly, i said thats because this is wrong but she wouldnt listen. i always held a candle of hope. then i find out shes seeing someone else. she fights with me now constantly nearly hates me it sounds like and i cant understand where my one true friend and lover is gone. I drink all the time im turning into a clingy person ringing and crying to her making her think im a sniveling low life. but this isnt me. i thought i was strong. im messing up in work, drinking to much and nearly died with an overdose recently. i have given up on life work and myself. i hate who ive become and i cant seem to find a way out. my support network is thrashed as me and her shared our life in a new place. im now in the apartment we got together on my own knowing shes living closeby dating someone else. where does it end guys and what do i do? how do i move on someone give me some advice please.

[funkybassplayer]

i can never understand the minds of some women nor would i try and nor should you. Accept the situation for what it is, You have to have no contact with her at all from now as its just messing up your head, its really hard but trust me it works. Dont text back, or answer her, it doesnt matter a hoot what she thinks now, its you thats important. get her stuff out or send it back, It will be hard, but after a time you will see things clear, and aviod any more greif that she is causing you. Tell her not to contact you anymore, no speechs or anything, you dont owe her an explination. and then do your greiving. you cant while your in contact. Its the only way to move forward bro. i know!

[Jmina]

I Agree with no contact....

ive been through the same.. its been a month and half for me and its still hell, everytime you hear from them you go back to square one. just dont contact her. if she contacts you take your own time to reply dont reply straight away, or dont reply at all.

my partner cried and is still getting over me too.....and shes the one who broke up with me... she loves me but cant be with me...

nothing i can do.. hopeless... so i have to move on.


good luck

Jmina