I just recently met this girl online through a dating service. We are both in our late 20s. We seem to have many similar interests and we have emailed each other a few times.

I'm thinking about asking her to meet for coffee. Should I do this or should I wait longer?

I don't want to scare her off, but meeting each other will tell a lot and I don't want to waste each other's time if we already know it's not going to work out for us.

What do you all think??

Thanks.

[Tony T]

Yes, invite her to meet you...in a public place...as soon as she feels comfortable doing so. As a matter of fact, if she won't meet you in person within two or three weeks of meeting online, write her off. Online relationships are NOT fulfilling...at least not even a fraction of what in person relationships are.

Your only problem may be that she doesn't drink coffee. Give her the option of having Coke or water.

[Ed]

Yep. Ask her to meet you. The ultiamte purpose of any dating service is to assist you in finding someone to have a real live relationship with. Why put it off?

You should meet soon.

Wanting to meet soon should not scare her off, as it's a dating service to meet people, and that's what you are supposed to be doing. She may have reservations about meeting a man she has never met, but if you keep the meeting safe, short, and in a public place, that should put her at ease.

Meet now, because you don't want to start fantasizing about how compatible you are, thinking you have a connection, then meeting and realizing you are not attracted.

Meet now so you don't put the cart before the horse in reagrd to your feelings/ expectations.

Good luck.

[Dragonflys]

I have a friend who's strategy is to invite the women he has met online to meet at Dunkin' Doughnuts for a first date.

Basically the idea is to suggest a safe, populated, nonthreatening place and you won't have any worries about being rejected.

Go for it!!

Oliver

[Tony T]

Have you ever had their French Cruellers??? They are to die for...and even better when they're hot. I'll meet anybody at Drunken Donuts ANYTIME!!! Great idea....oh, I meant Dunkin' Donuts, sorry.