OK, it seems a few of us have had a rough time with the darned NC. I had fantasies today of unloading all this anger, longing, and "WTF" onto my ex. I am creating this thread as a place for all of us in pain to post instead of contacting Ms/Mr ex. It could actually be kind of fun, at least a release.
I had a friend with a terrier dog who used to look out the window and whenever he saw another dog or squirrel or whatever dogs want to kill he would grab the nearest object and shake it furiously, all the while glaring at the object of his hatred, and barking/growling with his mouth full. It was hilarious and poignant, and I have to say, I relate to that pup!
What would you like to tell him or her? Even if it's been building up for years, post it here! Rage-fest! Longing-fest! DO NOT CONTACT that frigging ex, put it all here!!
__________________ We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.
Oscar Wilde
Does this ring a bell? "OOOOOH!!! MY CAPTAIN! MY CAPTAIN!"
Yeah, THAT "me".
Just wanted to say hi, see what's up, and let you know that you are dirty, filthy wh**e, and everyone knows it!
You are miserable, friendless, and take whatever brief comfort you can from spreading your legs for every guy that walks by!
Oh, how do I know this? I still hang out with your friend C....
Yeah, remember him? Your so-called "best friend" that you let down when he REALLY needed you?
Yeah, you have a habit of hurting the people close to you. I guess telling your mom that she'll never be a grandmother was just the start, huh?
You kicked your ex out on her (yes, HER) ass, and even threw half of her stuff in the street because she didn't move out fast enough for you. That was really considerate, right?
Your cousin just got married and he's already cheating? That's awful. I guess it's even worse that you let him use you as an alibi so he can get away with it, too!
When you dumped me in a text message, I thought it was the worst possible thing someone could do.
Well, I just want to thank you. You didn't dump me.
You FREED me. You freed me to find the life I want, the friends I want, and the happiness I deserve.
It's too bad you are incapable of finding it for yourself.
I actually feel sorry for you. Your parents are really good people, it's a shame their daughter turned out to be a total ass.
Well, it was fun catching up with you.
Go f*ck yourself. (actually, this is/was an inside joke we had)
*click*
-tp
ahh, that's the stuff
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"I find him both hilarious and deliciously manly. "
- Citizen Erased
OK, I started this, now I'll go... but it might not be my last!
OK, this is the pissed-off version, inspired by tp's brilliant post. I will post the longing one maybe later in the thread. Maybe.
Oh, Hi R. I see you have a pot belly now; seems you've been eating crap since I moved out. Guess your new gf isn't much of a cook, like I am. Oh sorry. Didn't mean to point this out. I've heard she's bulemic, is this true?
So, when are you going to work on the garden? I usually have spinach, peas, and radishes started by now. You told me that you can't wait to plant things differently than I did in the garden I created. Just curious. It's looking a little neglected. The frost date? No, it's not yet. No, I'm not telling you when it is. You're the gardener now, right? You don't need me to tell you about it.
Geez, I have to stop for the time being because I am worried that I will start to sound like Seung-Hui Cho.
To be continued....this is just the tip of the iceberg....the garden thing pushes my buttons....
How you doing? Wow, still not got a girl yet? I guess you cant find someone stupid enough to tell your soppy stories to eh? Yeah stories cos thats what they are. You are a pathetic excuse for a human being who lives off sympathy for people to notice you. That aint something to be proud of mate.
Lol I laughed so hard when I heard about your little stunts to get me jealous. You bragging about shagging a couple of lassies in a club to a friend on the phone when everyone noticed that there was no one on the other side. What girl woud come near you anyway? I dont know what the hell I saw in you.
You are a liar and a loser but there is definitely one thing I have to agree with you on. I am waaaay out of your league and we both know I can do a lot better than you.
I feel sorry for the next girl you date and I hope for her sake she finds out what a lying, pathetic snake you are. Thank you for freeing me.
Does this ring a bell? "OOOOOH!!! MY CAPTAIN! MY CAPTAIN!"
Yeah, THAT "me".
Just wanted to say hi, see what's up, and let you know that you are dirty, filthy wh**e, and everyone knows it!
You are miserable, friendless, and take whatever brief comfort you can from spreading your legs for every guy that walks by!
Oh, how do I know this? I still hang out with your friend C....
Yeah, remember him? Your so-called "best friend" that you let down when he REALLY needed you?
Yeah, you have a habit of hurting the people close to you. I guess telling your mom that she'll never be a grandmother was just the start, huh?
You kicked your ex out on her (yes, HER) ass, and even threw half of her stuff in the street because she didn't move out fast enough for you. That was really considerate, right?
Your cousin just got married and he's already cheating? That's awful. I guess it's even worse that you let him use you as an alibi so he can get away with it, too!
When you dumped me in a text message, I thought it was the worst possible thing someone could do.
Well, I just want to thank you. You didn't dump me.
You FREED me. You freed me to find the life I want, the friends I want, and the happiness I deserve.
It's too bad you are incapable of finding it for yourself.
I actually feel sorry for you. Your parents are really good people, it's a shame their daughter turned out to be a total ass.
Well, it was fun catching up with you.
Go f*ck yourself. (actually, this is/was an inside joke we had)
*click*
-tp
ahh, that's the stuff
Wow, that was great! You were really dumped through a txt message? I would definitely say you were freed.
__________________ "Search for what you have, not what you have lost"
"I've been thinking about you a lot lately so I wrote you a limerick."
"There once was a man from Nantucket,
Who always tried to...getsome,
His wife found this out,
When she felt a little doubt,
Now he can only pee using a bucket."
"I do hope you like it."
"Hugs. Catcha' later...or should I say good luck being able to catch anything again?"
Does this ring a bell? "OOOOOH!!! MY CAPTAIN! MY CAPTAIN!"
Yeah, THAT "me".
Just wanted to say hi, see what's up, and let you know that you are dirty, filthy wh**e, and everyone knows it!
You are miserable, friendless, and take whatever brief comfort you can from spreading your legs for every guy that walks by!
Oh, how do I know this? I still hang out with your friend C....
Yeah, remember him? Your so-called "best friend" that you let down when he REALLY needed you?
Yeah, you have a habit of hurting the people close to you. I guess telling your mom that she'll never be a grandmother was just the start, huh?
You kicked your ex out on her (yes, HER) ass, and even threw half of her stuff in the street because she didn't move out fast enough for you. That was really considerate, right?
Your cousin just got married and he's already cheating? That's awful. I guess it's even worse that you let him use you as an alibi so he can get away with it, too!
When you dumped me in a text message, I thought it was the worst possible thing someone could do.
Well, I just want to thank you. You didn't dump me.
You FREED me. You freed me to find the life I want, the friends I want, and the happiness I deserve.
It's too bad you are incapable of finding it for yourself.
I actually feel sorry for you. Your parents are really good people, it's a shame their daughter turned out to be a total ass.
Well, it was fun catching up with you.
Go f*ck yourself. (actually, this is/was an inside joke we had)
*click*
-tp
ahh, that's the stuff
Actually I don't see anything wrong with telling your mom she won't be a grandma. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have children, she was just being upfront with her mom that she didn't plan on having any kids.
Also you have no idea if she is happy or not, she might be ecstatic with her life right now. Hearing it from a "former best friend" who she supposedly let down or whatever isn't really a reliable source to get unbiased info from, lol.
Actually I don't see anything wrong with telling your mom she won't be a grandma. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have children, she was just being upfront with her mom that she didn't plan on having any kids.
Also you have no idea if she is happy or not, she might be ecstatic with her life right now. Hearing it from a "former best friend" who she supposedly let down or whatever isn't really a reliable source to get unbiased info from, lol.
It used to really make her mom upset to know this, and she'd keep reminding her about it, to really rub it in. I was a witness to this, and it was just awful. Her mom almost ran out of the room, crying.
And yes, I do know she's not happy, I have a few credible "sources".
Do I care? Not really, since her happiness or lack of has no true bearing on MY life, but knowing that she can't find anyone better than me DOES make me smile a bit.
To my ex's ex:
P.S. The same day he told you he wanted to give things a shot with you again, he was having sex with me. Three times. I think that's more than you ever gave it up in a year with him.
A week after he said he wanted to give things a shot with you again, he was texting me "I love you."
Two weeks after he said he wanted to give things a shot with you again, he came and picked me up from my apartment so that I could spend the night with him.
He is still jealous when I go out with other people. He still gets a hard-on for me. He still says he loves me, and he has said "I want to date you, but I have to resolve this issue in my life with my ex."
So there you go. I hope you enjoy that he is using you, too. He wants to "resolve" the issue of you, so he can "move on" with me. Congratulations. You tried so hard to "win" him back while he was with me. Really, congratulations. You've won such a wonderful prize.
I had a great time being with you. Thanks for the fond memories. I know that no relationships are perfect, we had our times of argueing. I still miss you but i can no longer trust a person who has betray me, even my friends treat me better than you. Its hard to be your friend, i am letting you free so you can find the love of your life. Hope you and your new guy hit it off and he treats you right. I have no regrets to have met you. I learned what love, pain, caring, and empathy is. I have met a lot of friends and keep the ones i cherish the most. I hope you do well in school and live life the way you want it to be. As for me, I will no longer break anymore hearts during the time we broke up till now, only the fact that i still loved you and wasn't able to move on to the next level of relationships with the girls i have met. Gl, maybe one day we can be friends, when i am able to catch or go beyond your level to see other ppl and learn to love again. Take Care
"In case you didn't get my last message, if you need a friend, don't look to me 'cause your needy selfishness is way too much for any one person to handle without coming out of it completely drained and angry at the world.
Even better, go see your primary OW, you know, the one that you threw under the bus when D-day hit and said "I didn't realize how easy it would be to dump the bitch. I hate her for what she's done to us."
How like you to 100% blame someone else for your issues."
i hate you. Stop calling to check up on me. You don't mean anything to my life anymore besides prolonging more delay to me healing. All the things i bought you, you will never see me treat you so nicely again. You have always been selfish and inconsiderate and never thought about how i felt. Good bye!
Dear Mabel,
Ever since we met, I'd never magined we'd ever get together..but we did. I miss how you were so into me.. and how unbelievable it all was.. you were always my sweetheart ever since we were younger and now you loved me!
I miss how you used to love us being together and always wanting to be with me.. no matter what and that we'd go through the future and any potential problems together..
I'll always love you and who you are.. although it cuts so deep that you act as if I no longer matter anymore..
Why babe? Why make it so hard for me? Why promise me the world and give me hope when in the end.. I don't even matter? How did I go from being your baby..your love..your gorgeous.. to just someone????
I wish we could've worked it out but I'll never know whats put this hate into your heart.. How could we go from what we were..to this?? How can you forget everything you felt just like that and expect me to be cool about it..
How can you tell somone you love them so much and yet.. you don't...
Why babe.......
I don't think i'll ever know.. and the worst part is the next time we meet.. I don't even know whether to smile or cry.. of course i'll smile.. and wish you well.. but deep inside.. you n i both know things will never be the same...
I wish i didn't have to miss you so much... i wish i could just forget everything.. but then again... I guess its better to have loved you than never before..
I love you baby... always...
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June 8, 2010 
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