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Old 5th January 2007, 3:28 PM   #1
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'I'm approachable' signs?
Hey guys, would you ever approach an attractive, single woman in public place as a way of meeting her?

If you have, what made her approachable to you?

Did she give off some kind of an "I'm approachable" sign to you?

What are these signs?
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Old 5th January 2007, 3:30 PM   #2
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Smile at me and make decent eye contact. That's all I need to approach her.
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Old 5th January 2007, 3:51 PM   #3
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Smile at me and make decent eye contact. That's all I need to approach her.
So, if a woman blushes and looks away, is that a bad sign to a man? I do that all the time!
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Old 5th January 2007, 3:57 PM   #4
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The strongest "I'm approachable" sign is brief eye contact and a smile. Add a wave and if the guy doesn't approach you, he's either married or a loser. (If he does approach you after a wave, he may STILL be married or a loser, but you'll just have to screen them out. )

Next would be to have a happy look on your face and have you face up, staying looking around the room, not like you're looking for someone to arrive (a boyfriend), but that you're aware & involved with what is happening in the room.

"Do NOT approach me!" signs would be keeping your head & eyes down, not looking around the room or at anyone else, looking like you're irritated or angry at something.
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Old 5th January 2007, 3:58 PM   #5
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For me it depends on the public place..

I would speak with someone at the gas pumps of a gas station but not in a mall shopping..
Someone waiting on tires being put on her car is more approachable to me that say someone at Starbucks..
At the tire place everyone wants to shoot the crap and at Starbucks they might be working or reading and not want to be bothered.

and as far as approaching a girl if she has shot me the sign.. I will approach a girl anyplace if the sign was shot to me that the door was open.

Sometimes all it takes is a HI !!
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Old 5th January 2007, 4:02 PM   #6
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give him the come-hither sex kitten look...you know the one. oh and wear 4" heels all the time...they make you more "approachable" cause you can't run away as easily.
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Old 5th January 2007, 4:11 PM   #7
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For me it depends on the public place..

I would speak with someone at the gas pumps of a gas station but not in a mall shopping..
Yea, I don't like to be bothered when I am shopping either. Haha!

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Someone waiting on tires being put on her car is more approachable to me that say someone at Starbucks..
I am seriously getting new tires put on my car in a month! I usually just drop my car off. Haha!

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and as far as approaching a girl if she has shot me the sign.. I will approach a girl anyplace if the sign was shot to me that the door was open.
Shot you what? A look? A wink...?? How did that woman know you were single?

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Sometimes all it takes is a HI !!
I just assume that any good looking guy is already married. I would hate to say 'HI' to a married guy. I would feel stupid then.
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Old 5th January 2007, 4:12 PM   #8
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give him the come-hither sex kitten look...you know the one. oh and wear 4" heels all the time...they make you more "approachable" cause you can't run away as easily.
I don't want the guy to think I am a hooker!
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Old 5th January 2007, 4:15 PM   #9
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I don't want the guy to think I am a hooker!
well its still a good way to get them to approach, I say.... and you can provide the sex for free so you really wouldn't be classified as a lady of ill repute

the "slutty look" works, trust me...
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Old 5th January 2007, 4:19 PM   #10
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the "slutty look" works, trust me...
Well, maybe in a bar! I am talking about at my son's basketball games or at the grocery store.

But, trust me...I can DO the slutty look when it's appropriate.
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Old 5th January 2007, 4:22 PM   #11
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Shot you what? A look? A wink...?? How did that woman know you were single?

I just assume that any good looking guy is already married. I would hate to say 'HI' to a married guy. I would feel stupid then.
Not a wink.. Just a nice warm smile and a Hi..


When I was married there were women that would smile or hit on me thinking I was single and I just smiled back.. I never once thought anything bad about them..
If they are married don't feel stupid.. they will just move on.. ( hopefully )
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Old 5th January 2007, 4:22 PM   #12
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give him the come-hither sex kitten look...you know the one. oh and wear 4" heels all the time...they make you more "approachable" cause you can't run away as easily.
Funny :-)

But just in case someone thought you were serious, I'll clarify that some guys will run away as fast as they can if the gal is dressed up like a hooker.

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Well, maybe in a bar! I am talking about at my son's basketball games or at the grocery store.

But, trust me...I can DO the slutty look when it's appropriate.
ha ha ha....when youre trolling for men everywhere is appropriate

no matter where I am my eyes are on sexiest woman in the place
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Old 5th January 2007, 4:27 PM   #14
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ha ha ha....when youre trolling for men everywhere is appropriate

no matter where I am my eyes are on sexiest woman in the place
Seriously...is this Alpha??

You are just looking for a hookup though, right?
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So, if a woman blushes and looks away, is that a bad sign to a man? I do that all the time!
If she does not smile or make eye contact and looks away I read that as "I don't want to be approached."

You'll have to learn to overcome those insecurities and smile at men and make eye contact. Takes a little practice to get good, but what doesn't?
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