Ok, so the x finally called... man did she put on a good show. She said a lot of things that i thought she meant.... come to find out she didnt.
1) said part of her regrets leaving
2) said she is not ready to date or go out... and some guy tried to touch her hand and she did not like the feeling of that
3) said she cares about me and loves me
4) said she has not been able to sleep, or eat
5) said she has cried herself to sleep a few times
6)asked me if I closed the door to her
well you get the picture.... then today I call her and a guy who she swears is just a friend was in the background at her house... or she was at his house. one or the other. And she was being short and really did not wan to talk to me. What in the world is going on. Am I supposed to believe that he is just a "friend." Now she did not say she wanted to come back... but man, she said just about everything else. Does anybody have a clue what is going on.

[Winfield]

She's not worthy of your time. And, judging by her "actions" when you called her, it seems to me as though she's seeing someone else.

What she's doing is playing a game with your feelings - she wants everything on her own terms, and by doing so, she's keeping you "on a string" (ie, calling you up when it suits her, telling you what you want to hear)...

To summarise, all she is able to offer you are mere words (if and when it suits her), and nothing else. She probably gets a kick out of knowing that you're still interested in her (ie, by listening to her when she called). You stated yourself it was "a good show" by her - so, go with your instinct here and don't fall for her "sweet talking".

It seems to me it's all her way or the highway - and that ain't fair.

Here's a tip: next time when (or if) she calls you, and starts going on about "you and her", stop her in her tracks and change the subject. She might then get the idea that the subject of "you and her" isn't so high on your priorty list these days...

If you ask me though, I think she's one you'd be best to forget about.

[KittenMoon]

It's called being needy and attention seeking. She's one of those girls that needs a male around them all the time, validating them. If one backs off for five minutes, she seeks another, until the other one returns, then she ditches her back up as if she never sought him out in the first place. Repeat process.

They call it confused, unsure, scared, but all it really is, is neediness.

You don't need to be someone's ego balm.

[panzer6]

My ex is the same, I'll go months without talking to her and then she calls and acts all nice and flirty. Then when it comes to us hanging out she becomes all cold and abusive. It will never end unless you put an end to it. I get tired of being hurt by her. Haven't talked to her in over a month. I wont have any thing to do with her anymore. It sucks but that is the only way out of it.