[yousaveme]

i wasnt sure where to put this thread....

What exactly does it mean when someone admits the marriage is pretty much over, just hanging in there for the kids. ( meaning until the kids are settled ).

[LucreziaBorgia]

Its depends on the context and whether or not its the truth. If its said in the context of casual friends (not affair partners) talking you can bet its pretty much just like it sounds - two people living as roommates sharing a parenting responsibility. Probably separate sleeping arrangements, differing schedules, etc. Divorce becomes inevitable as there is nothing left of the marital bond.

I'm in a situation like this right now. My stbxH and I can't afford separate places, so we have separate sleeping arrangements - our schedules run independently of each other and we have agreed to divorce and have shared this with our families. We get along just fine, no fighting or arguing, and we share the parenting responsibilities - we've become family members rather than marital partners and live as such.

Now... like I said, its all in the context. Sometimes that same story can be used to pave the way for an affair by creating 'sympathy' for the MM/MW.

[yousaveme]

actually i found this out ( was being a sneak ) by reading something that was sent to a friend.
When the friend ( not mine ) asked...The response given was Yes the marriage is pretty much over just basically keeping the kids happy at the moment.

When asked about how the wife felt about the marriage it was basically the same response that they are just together for the kids until they are settled . ( im guessing that means when the are alittle older to handle the news )