Alright, I started seeing this girl about 3 months ago. We both didnt want a relationship being of the fact of her moving to New York in 6 months.So at the time so we agreed to keep it casual. Well that didnt work. We are now together. Shes is everything that I want in a girl and I want her to stay. I have been showing her different things that she hasnt experienced before. She is now starting to second guess her desicion. But everytime I ask her flat out if shes moving. She says yes. I dont get it. What should I do? Am I setting myself up for failure?

[Steff_a_nie]

Listen closely,

You're not setting yourself up for failure but you have to realise that you and her have to try to keep the relationship together equally, its not a one man job. You need two to tango... you know what i mean...

Long Distance Relationships can work but only if the two people are willing to try and make it work. It's harder then other relationships... you have to communicate more so then you've ever had to before mainly because communication is all you'll have most of the time. As for her moving, thats her choice and all you can do about it is support her and let her know that whatever she choses to do, you'll be there for her. But her lack of making a formal decission is telling me that she really doesnt know what she wants... you should be the one to help her figure that out.

Good Luck and God Bless

[bella_girl]

have you asked her to stay?

Perhaps she's still saying that she's moving because she doesn't know how you feel... and if you said 'will you stay' she might rethink the decision.

[Steff_a_nie]

Originally Posted by bella_girl

have you asked her to stay?

Good question. that's all it really comes down to. Have you asked her to stay?