How to get rid off revengeful thoughts?

Arnika

Getting rid off the anger seems at times still impossible. It has been 8 months since my husband of 20 years left me and our 4 children for a friend of mine. She is almost 20 years older than him , and looks it too. They have been having un affair for quite some time before he left us. I always suspected it, but never wanted to believ it.

He parades with her downtown , kissing, hugging making people's heads turn because she is so much older. People are disgusted, but him and her do not care.She feels of course like a million bucks. A young hunk left his wife and kids to be with her. This is really a testimony og love!

He has not seen his children in months. My daughter called him yesterday and asked for a ride. SHe asked if he could get her "alone". Well , the other woman was with him , and he refused to get rid of her to pick up his child. All he said, was " I am sorry you feel that way" ,and he did not pick her up.

As a 15 year old teenager, it was hard to be so obviously rejected by your own father.

I am so angry at him and her. I want him to hurt , like we are.
It is not fair that he gets happiness and we are miserable.

We are in counseling but the revengeful thoughts will not go away.

Any suggestions?