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Old 24th January 2006, 3:18 PM   #16
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at a large Fortune 500 company it would be considered inappropriate.
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Old 24th January 2006, 3:29 PM   #17
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huge boobs/short skirts

If a woman has HUGE boobs sometimes it doesn't matter what shirt she has on, there will be some cleavage. A nice blouse will still show cleavage unless it's buttoned up to the neck.
I know of places where women are not allowed to wear short skirts that are well above the knee...[/QUOTE]


I have big boobs and a tiny lower everything (C cup and a size 0 on the bottom).

As much as most men would think this is a good thing, my husband thought my legs were my greatest asset. (I appreciated him not groping at my boobs when we first dated- as most men did).

I always wore a very conservative blouse with a suit (short skirt is good for me (and most of my clients were female - but it made me feel great) - but if it is a longer skirt or pants - I don't care ALL of my legs parts are good to go (and up above too).
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Old 24th January 2006, 3:30 PM   #18
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There is such a thing is tastefull cleavage.
Exactly as long as it isn't showing too much i see nothing wrong along with taste not too much is very inappropriate..
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Old 24th January 2006, 9:25 PM   #19
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Well, I'm a guy but...

I don't consider it appropriate at work. There's a woman in my office who is in her early 50s who thinks she's still a teenager and dresses accordingly, including low-cut dresses and I don't think anyone takes her seriously because of it. Perhaps that's why she's been single for well over 20 years.

Age is not the factor, however. I don't care if they're 20 or 60, any professional and anyone working in a professional venue should show some decorum.

For the record, I'll be 60 in a few months and my wife will be 58. She neither wrinkled nor saggy, nor did she ever dress in such a manner that anyone else would know that before she retired, or after. It's our secret!
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Old 6th February 2006, 12:00 AM   #20
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Okay then, what about if a man shows cleavage at work?
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Old 6th February 2006, 8:44 AM   #21
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I personally think a fabulous conservative suit with a short skirt is alot more appealing and enticing, especially if a gal is tall with nice legs.
Conservative suits work well. I like them even if no legs are showing. My view is, if anyone complained, (male or female) then a visit from the dress code police will be needed. There is a thing as to much clevage in a professional workplace. It is not professional to not wear a bra.

A dress code would need to be addressed but unlike men, dress shoes, suit, shirt, and tie are pretty much cut and dry. Not much deviation other than shirt design/color matched with tie color/design and accessories. Women in my opinion have it easier when it comes to a dress code.
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Old 8th February 2006, 7:29 AM   #22
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I think part of it depends on your office culture.

Some places have dress codes because they want to portray a certain image. I knew a girl who worked for large bank and they were instructed to keep skirts a certain length, shirts buttoned up to the collar bone, etc. They were very very specific.

I'm glad not to work in a place that stiff. BUT....I do think it's ridiculous when women in my office wear things like super-tight, ill-fitting clothes or belly shirts or anything that squeezes the boobs up to under their chins. They just look unprofessional and.....sorry.....not very intelligent.

One women who used to work for us had to be told several times to leave her belly shirts and thigh-high pink boots at home. Let me add, she was over 35.

Her supervisor had to tell her, "Look, your clients are sick people. Do you think they are going to have much faith in a healthcare provider who dresses like she's going out clubbing after work?"

It was just ridiculous.
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Old 8th February 2006, 9:11 AM   #23
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If a woman has HUGE boobs sometimes it doesn't matter what shirt she has on, there will be some cleavage. A nice blouse will still show cleavage unless it's buttoned up to the neck.
I know of places where women are not allowed to wear short skirts that are well above the knee...
Cleavage at work is fine, given the type of clothing you are wearing. Tudor's idea of "tasteful cleavage" is what I'm thinking. I had a boss who has enormous breasts and really couldn't conceal them all of the time up to the neck. Most of her outfits showed nothing, of course, but others that were nice showed some cleavage near her neck. Big deal. And this woman was meeting with CEOs from members of our organization all of the time. Her attitude was very professional, so this was never an issue. And she didn't take any lip from men. Ha ha ha.
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Old 9th February 2006, 2:09 PM   #24
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The age of the person is irrelevant, it's just not appropriate looking at work.

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Okay then, what about if a man shows cleavage at work?
I'll admit it, chest hair tufting out of an overly opened shirt is gross. Especially if he's wearing a gold chain.
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Old 9th February 2006, 2:14 PM   #25
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I'll admit it, chest hair tufting out of an overly opened shirt is gross. Especially if he's wearing a gold chain.
This was my driver's ed teacher in high school I will never forget -- he had a gold chain that -- er-- rested on the thick tuft of hair growing from the front of his body. So the chain never actually touched skin as far as I could see.
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Old 9th February 2006, 2:17 PM   #26
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The age of the person is irrelevant, it's just not appropriate looking at work.



I'll admit it, chest hair tufting out of an overly opened shirt is gross. Especially if he's wearing a gold chain.
that's how the owner & his son dress at my office.
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Old 9th February 2006, 2:46 PM   #27
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This was my driver's ed teacher in high school I will never forget -- he had a gold chain that -- er-- rested on the thick tuft of hair growing from the front of his body. So the chain never actually touched skin as far as I could see.
That would seriously have given me the shivers. Ugh.
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Old 13th February 2006, 10:39 AM   #28
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well its seriously bad taste...unless your occupation is in the bar or something....i tend to find under-dressed ladies a little inappropriate - i on theother hand sticked to long sleeves and long skirts n i buttoned it all up.
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Old 25th February 2006, 1:02 PM   #29
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I would like your opinion please. Do you think cleavage at work is appropriate? I work at a large educational institution where all of our students are 18-30. I find it inappropriate, offensive, and improper. For a bar, fine, for a date, fine, I just don't think it's proper for the workplace. I was wondering if others feel this way or if I am really behind the times. The person I am referring to is 50+, wrinkled, saggy, and it looks unsightly because I think she also goes braless. Please let me know what you think...especially the guys...is this attractive to you? Thanks.
As a man, I don't view female coworkers who dress inappropriately with the same level of acknowledgement as I do with those who dress appropriately and yet attractively in a conservative feminine way. When I see excessive cleavage or excessively tight clothes, it doesn't say "here is Sheila, a competent engineer with a technical opinion that is valued." it says "here is the next woman I can potentially sleep with". As a manager, i am keen on equal treatment of the sexes. I make notes about inappropriate dress on the part of my male employees and it affects their performance appriasals as well. Work is about making the company money. If it is the type of company where more sales would be generated by a woman who shows a little skin, then fine. An engineering firm is not that type of company however. If you want to be respected as an equal and not viewed as an easy piece of ass, don't dress and behave inapprpriately.
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Old 25th February 2006, 1:12 PM   #30
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My opinion: an attractive girl at work who showed off some cleavage would just blow my day. I freakin horny. I can't afford to get that charged up. So I have more practical objections to women showing skin at work.

If I weren't feeling this way, then I'd say that yeah, women sacrifice respect if they don't dress conservatively at the office. But that's just one of many ways people can sacrifice respect. I'm not sure it's worse than some of other things I deal with from day to day.
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