[slubberdegullion]

Originally Posted by kitten chick

The only thing I haven't seen come up... is the response to the difference between weight gain from a health issue versus a non-health related issue.

Some medications, such as steroids, cause edema, which isn't actually fat, it's retention of fluids. In that case, there is little excuse for criticism because it is something that's beyond the control of the individual.

But when it's a conscious choice, like inhaling ice cream after a dinner at Mcdonalds, that is entirely different.

[Sundax]

Originally Posted by kitten chick

I still suspect there are others out there that aren't speaking up because it's not PC to say, "yes, I would leave my SO if they were to gain weight". I appreciate the honest responses from everyone though.

The only thing I haven't seen come up (well slightly in the beginning of the thread) is the response to the difference between weight gain from a health issue versus a non-health related issue.

If it's a health issue that is totally debilitating, I would say of course there's no fault to be found in gaining weight. BUT what they do then is very important. If the issue passes and they don't try to lose the weight, that is irresponsible.

That's my situation. My wife gained the weight after getting hit by a car. She was in pain for a long time and depressed. I didn't hold it against her that she gained weight. No way. But now... it's ten years later and she still has all the extra weight. Her injuries have been gone for may years. I think the weight should go too.

Seems like for most "health issues" though you can still do your best to, you know, not overeat on a diet of very unhealthy foods.