People are free to say what they want to me, about me, behind my back, and they can judge me as they see fit, and do you think I care? NO I don't give a crap because everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and opinions.
I thought it was so typical of her to conveniently come into the boardroom KNOWING there was pizza and acting surprised MMMMM PIZZA and not even ASKING for a piece, just assuming the OWNER of the company who was sitting right there, would be okay with it. I didn't look at him, but I'm sure he was floored by her actions.
[quote]Why do you care what she eats or if she is doing her job? What business is it of yours? /[quote]
I care when she's reaching over eating MY lunch. Okay, sometimes she uses manners and asks "Can I have a carrot?" or "Can I try some of your soup?" Another coworker once said to her "you know, it's pretty rude to ask someone for their food they brought for their lunch. I would never think of doing that". The whole table fell silent and everyone was thinking FINALLY someone said something. Do you thing she got the hint? see above rant for answer.
Sorry, I have no sympathy for her. She is just plain RUDE! I would think the same if it was a relative or a close friend and not even in a workplace, that really has nothing to do with it.
Almost everyone has at least one annoying habit that other notice or comment on. It may be wearing bad clothing, body odor, over-eating, over drinking, not being nice, being too nice, bad teeth, bad hair, ugly, too good looking, too short, too fat, too tall, not fun to be around, not exciting enuf, not enuf money......whatever.
I think you should leave the woman alone as long as she does not bother you. She is making herself look like an idiot already and you know everyone is laughing at her. That should be consolation enuf.
i'm on your side 40. i have known people like this, that are just annoying and you cant explain it, it just is. When you try to , as you did in your rant, you just get this self righteous crap to put a guilt trip on you. Judgemental, mean,etc. etc. whatever work she is doing, subtract the productivity loss she is causing from others if she is not meshing (or "fitting") in with the group. these others probably have escapes from the people that annoy them...you are imprisoned with this heffer. Anyway, i had the same food snatching problem one time and here's how to solve that VERY quickly.
Go buy a pack of that EXLAX laxative (EXLAX, THE "GENTLE LAXATIVE!!!"). Get a box of that betty crocker brownie mix, and melt that exlax into the batter and cook it. a moron can bake this stuff. then, to provide "plausible deniability", pay some punk somewhere to deliver it to the office from a secret admirer or something, addressed to no one, and remove 1 slice. Nature and her fat arse will do the rest. do it when she has a lot of access to it alone, or else you may inadvertently procure other victims. you do not want to be a serial bomber here, but there are sometimes inadvertant casualties in war, and this is what this is.
Just sit back and enjoy the show-- you will accomplish many goals, both hers and yours. She will not only walk during lunch, but will now be running. she will lose weight very quickly for a short time. she will keep all those chins from flapping for a while, so you wont have to listen to her crap....well, you may hear her crap, but i digress. And in the middle of of this apocalyptic adventure in your workplace, YOU>>>YOU be the one to bring her the bottle of pepto bismol, and suggest that she see a dr. or at least take the day off......you know there are a lot of 24 hour viruses out there. AH, the old wolf in sheeps clothing...macheavelli? would be proud. its a beautiful thing.........
You would have made great strides in preventing her from comandeering food. Believe me, my stooge got the message from stealing food, and he needed a friggin taste tester before he would eat anything he didnt bring himself. And dont go on a guilt trip afterwards.....you accomplished your goal, war is hell, and NEVER tell anyone else.......except us, or me, and let me know how it went. GOOD luck if you decide to take this mission!!!!!
She is not shy about it, has no shame. She had been walking on her lunch hours, and has lost quite a bit of weight, but she hasn't lost the rudeness.
Say something to her. You don't have to be rude, just come right out and say, "You know, there are lots of other people here too, maybe ask first instead of just diving in..." Or while she's reaching over for the grub, firmly say " There isn't alot to go around, so please just take one piece, okay? Thanks!!" And smile graciously...
And WHY is she asking YOU for your food? Doesn't she pack her own lunch? Or pack enough? I would say something about that too. Just abit weird, but isn't everybody in their own unique way?
So you basically have a much better life than this woman (at least at work), and you want to rant. That's fine. You don't have a diary? So you make so much more money than this woman, have your own office, and you can't afford $5 for a pad of paper? You wanted people to agree with you, and most people don't, so you're getting defensive. That's the double-edged sword that is freedom of speech and posting in a public place.
I've always found it interesting that people with not much in their lives can find a lot to be happy about, but those who have a lot just gripe about things. Let's say a close family member died tomorrow. Would you really give a crap that this woman took a piece of pizza? If you aren't starving, and can afford food for yourself, who cares? When I was a kid I used to stand in food lines with my mom, who didn't get child support for my father, was laid off, and had to support me by herself. But I NEVER heard her piss and moan about it. I'm not saying she's better than you (well, ok, she is, but that's a personal bias of mine), but she had a good outlook and knew what was important in life. ME, and making sure we had food.
talk about pre-judging someone. this was just a steam blowing event. its aggravating to some people when someone picks over their food. just look at dogs---some let others eat with them and some fight. just different strokes. what means little for you might be a big deal for someone else. steal a horse in new york, who cares??/call PITA. steal one in texas and you're a dead man.
he's not talking about depriving anyone from food ---your mother at the food bank had nothing to complain about the food, but i damn guarantee she would have if you and her would have been waiting to get some and then this blimp, who could live off one of her thighs for a year, would come and want some of your food. dont you think your mom, who was just protecting you, would have opened a can of whoop ass?
this isnt about survival, its about politeness, and different sensibilities. what should 40 have to suck it up, and this woman not have to RESPECT his sensibilities??? talk is cheap, and getting even is a better lesson than getting mad, hence my previous post of how to solve this permanently. its obvious that this woman cant take a hint that her actions are annoying; some people just need the perverbial 2x4 between the eyes before they can focus and you can get their attention. And fat isnt an insult, its a fact. whether you like it or not--no need to apologize 40.
Maybe some of you have a different definition of a rant. I wasn't looking for approval or help or for anyone to agree with me. Opinions are welcome, and nobody has offended me....cuz u already know I don't give a rats azz what anyone else thinks.
I don't obsess about this everyday. Today it bothered me alot so I ranted (and the HR lady was away)
Hey i think u have every right to rant about this lady. if she's an annoying, selfish, lazy slob that also happends to be fat, she probably already knows she is, and she probably cant help but notice people hate her. shes probably one of those people thats gone through life annopying everyone she comes across. her parents probably let her grow up acting like she can do what she wants, take what she wants, and not take a job seriously so now the rest of society has to pay for it. I dont see what the big deal is with everyone else, why they're mad. I understand that she pisses u off, who cares if your not her boss and shes not yours, if u have to put up with her fat annoying ass in anyway, then u have every right to form your own personal opinion of her. One thing i think you are doing wrong though is, youre not telling her. If she grabs off your plate say "hey fatty wtf? u cant just grab food off of people plates, its not right." or when she grabs food from another person, or takes a piece of pizza that wasnt intended for her say "hey fatty, maybe u should ask for that pizza and then sumone will say no, we dont have enough to share, and you can get on your fat ol' way" that way everyone in the room hears u, she gets embarrassed, and maybe realizes what she was doing was wrong. Hey, maybe u guys will eventually become friends, maybe thats all she needs is sumone who can teach her to act right.
I havent read all the posts, maybe somebody else has just said everything i said, but oh well i said it.
One thing i think you are doing wrong though is, youre not telling her. If she grabs off your plate say "hey fatty wtf? u cant just grab food off of people plates, its not right." or when she grabs food from another person, or takes a piece of pizza that wasnt intended for her say "hey fatty, maybe u should ask for that pizza and then sumone will say no, we dont have enough to share, and you can get on your fat ol' way" that way everyone in the room hears u, she gets embarrassed, and maybe realizes what she was doing was wrong. Hey, maybe u guys will eventually become friends, maybe thats all she needs is sumone who can teach her to act right.
This strategy will not lead to her becoming anybody's friend because public humiliation in now way is a good mean to win people's heart over. I actually wouldn't know who is more rude and tactless, the one who takes the pizza without asking or the one who publicly calls her pizza snatching colleague "fatty".
I actually wouldn't know who is more rude and tactless, the one who takes the pizza without asking or the one who publicly calls her pizza snatching colleague "fatty".
My vote goes to the name-caller.
The OP needs to get over it. It's not his concern that his co-worker is overweight and likes to snatch pizza. The only time he should be concerned is when she tries to snatch his food. I'd be quite pissed in that case as well.
And laughing at someone who has injured him/herself is just plain immature. That sort of *beep* should have been left behind in the primary schoolyard.
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I dunno about the rest of you but I think if everyone in the world had an orgasm at the same time we would achieve world peace.
She is allowed to say what she wants and feel how she wants
Seriously, firstly if you ever worked in an office you would know you are there to work and act as professionals. Fingering someonesfood and gulping down the office candy and left overs is not professional, or even mature.
AND WHEN DID BEING FAT, RUDE, AND ANNOYING SUDDENLY BECOME OK. That is the problem, we have become too accepting and as soon as someone makes a statement " He/She is FAT" ooooooohhhhh --- mabe the fact is they ARE - and there is nothing BEAUTIFUL (despite what Rikki Lake says -- and FYI her staff can't stand her and call her Fat Rickki behind her back and to the audience members and tour groups that come to the studio) FAT is unappealing and unhealthy. But much like today's society and MWC gets reemed for stating the obvious she/he is FAT and ANNOYING ! not GRAVATATIONALLY CHALLENEGED like our sympathizers on the message board would like to think.
Also, what happened to acting an acceptabel way in public (IE Work) ?? If someone acts out of line you should say so. And for all you critizers out ther YES there is an acceptable way to act, your mommy and daddy should of tought you proper manners when you were growing up. And this woman/man is not showing any and should be chastized for it and NOT MWC !!! If you don't beleive in proper manners and social skills well all I can say is keep digging ditches and fix'in cars and you won't have to worry about it.
All this pathetic sympathy for the Fatty Patty and anger towards MWC is really misguided.
Hey, maybe u guys will eventually become friends, maybe thats all she needs is sumone who can teach her to act right.
Are you kidding me?!?!? Teach her to 'act right' by calling her names and insulting her? What if you had a zit on your face that you didn't cover? Would you like it if I said "Hey zit face, can you cover that up?"
Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40
Maybe some of you have a different definition of a rant. I wasn't looking for approval or help or for anyone to agree with me. Opinions are welcome, and nobody has offended me....cuz u already know I don't give a rats azz what anyone else thinks.
I don't obsess about this everyday. Today it bothered me alot so I ranted (and the HR lady was away)
Maybe I forgot why we all joined this message board, but I thought it was so we could rant and rave just as much as we ask for opinions.
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Originally posted by Moose I don't need her opinions on someone I don't personally know, keep them to herself
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Originally posted by Rosalind I think what Moose is getting at is - many people are not interested in engaging in gossip about someone they don't personally know.
Do you not realize you are posting on the world wide web?
I'm a bit confused by those who are one your case about sharing information about someone they don't know. Isn't that what all these posts are? And if you don't want to hear about someone you don't know - quit reading!
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