[NiceGuyMojo]

Never thought it would happen after living together for 23 years with 17 years of faithful marriage. We have two kids 8 and 12. I have no strong physical proof yet but she has ALL all the classic warning signs from what I have read over the past two years.

The arguements are unbelievable and one sided. She just blows up until she gets tired and then stops. How can one person cover seven different topics in one breath during a fight? Smoke screen or high stress? Nothing gets discussed or much less resolved. Just becomes a shouting match without any purpose? Then I stop when it gets to this point She is well educated and knows the fundamentals of a discussion. I listen mostly, sometimes too much which upsets her more.

I try to find out her schedule for the week and what's going on at work or with the kids. Usually is vague about work activities. So I have to pull it out of her by asking open ended questions. Sometimes I call her at work and find out she's coming in late or has left early. Even she's off today. I call her cell phone and there's no answer which is rarely off because of work.

One day she left work at 12:30 PM on a Friday when I happened to call. Shows up to pick the kids up at the babysitter at 8:30. She said I left early around 4 and did some shopping. OK? So I asked what she bought. Never saw the stuff. Check the date when the statements came in or cash withdrawals snooped around. Nothing..... She lied to me flat out but why?

Common excuses are I Told You, I Thought I Told You or You Forgot But I Did Tell You. This is becoming phrases of the year two years in a row now.

Too many unusual and unexplained "Little Things" happen everyday. Small lies about personal stuff missing like new my watches, Gift Cards, new clothing, belts, dishes etc. So I baited her with a $100 GC from a high-end Fly Fishing store. Told her I won a contest right before she was going to work and left it with the mail. Said to her I was going to give it to my Brother for his birthday. SOB... Two minutes later I saw her snatch it off the counter as she left. She flat out denied everything! But Why? I would have given it to her if she asked?

The other day she received a small Thank You card in the mail addressed to her as MS. I handed it to her open sat down next to her. Asked her who it was from? She looked like she saw a ghost! Thank you for your gift signed by two female names separately like a H&W would do. She said she did not know who they were and the body language flew. Leaned back, head sunk into her shoulders turning side to side. Voice pitch changed... and I don't know? We sat for a few moments and I looked at her like I was waiting for a response. She starred at the letter and said I...I... don't know? No last names or return address. I never would in a 100 years expect but her reaction????


What do think? Am I crazy? Tried approaching her but flat out denies everything.