[2ndConfusedfemale]

I was just reading the latest threads and it made me wonder, are there any success stories of the MM actually leaving his wife? And is it that people don't really consider it happy since someone usually gets hurt in the process? Is it not posted here because it is just that rare? Has anyone ever got their MM and realized it wasn't what it was cracked up to be? Has anyone ever did it the "right way" and told the MM they will not be romantically involved until he gets the divorce and he gets it? How long did it take?

here's a little background on me. I have never dated a married man, so I'm not asking because of that. I was involved with someone who has a girlfriend (I didn't know about her) and once I found out we stopped talking/seeing each other for 5 months. He came back in Aug. and I told him that I wouldn't voluntarily be his O/W (although he wanted to talk/date regularily and go further) so we agreed that since our chemistry is too strong it'll probably be best to minimize contact. I do sometimes want him to be out of a relationship, not necessarily to be "my boyfriend" because I'm not ready for a serious relationship, but I do want him to be out of it so that I can date him, etc. w/o feeling second, guilty, selfish, stupid, insecure and all of those other feelings that comes along with dating someone who isn't "yours".

back to the point, I know that obviously people do not ALWAYS stay with their wives since the divorce rate is so high. I just wanted to hear some stories. And I do know that one o/w "success" is SOME married women's nightmare so this thread isn't for that kind of thing. thx.