[shortbus74]

ShareHer....regardless of what you want.... it has to be a three way street...
I have done the two guys and one girl and I will say the aftermath of the action was not exactly good....
I was not forced into the situation but I did not feel "right" about it...
fantasies are great, but they lose their appeal when they become reality....

[hotgurl]

Shareher,
After reading your post I got an idea. You said this guy still calls your wife? why don't you watch her have phone sex with him and maybe help it might make her more comfotable to have a liver performance.

As for me I have had several threesomes. They are so hot . I'd rather be the center of attention though 2 guys and little ole me but when i did it in a relationship it blew it apart. He thought he would be fine but wasn't. He became very jealous afterward and possive. But with 2 casual aquitanses it woked fine

[pinnicle10]

I like your attitude. You just did not have the right partner. I like the fact that you like to take a walk on the wild side a bit.

[hotgurl]

We are actually celebrating 3 yrs at a victorian inn at the cape. I go a french maid outfit and some silk scarfs and a blindfold.

But I agree thoose types of relationship can work but everyone has to be on board but sometimes it's hard to really know how you'll feel until after it happens.

The only thing I wish is to have a ffm but the bf isn't into it. and i have, to say I am a little jealous so I don't know how I'd react latter. It's fuuny though I've never been jealous before but i've never been so deeply in a relationship before either. Maybe for his b-day I'll surprise him hmmm........

[pinnicle10]

Thank you for the reply. If you bf does not want to do the ffm than it will nto be a surprise. If you are not sure how you will feel then you should definitely not do it. Stick with the mmf stuff since you know he is okay with it. I know I would be. I have done some very wild things with my ex wife.

Steve

[sassyone]

I've been in this kind of situation before. My husband started talking to me about 3somes and swinging partners. 3somes with another female i didnt mind as i always had a curiosity to try something new with a female in the relationship too. My husband is always saying how he wants to repay the favour and see me with another man....and although this has been a fantasy of mine for many years its something that i'd like to remain a fantasy. I love my husband way too much and i keep explaining to him that if i wanted to have sex with other men apart from him then i'd be single and not in a marriage because i just wouldnt do it . Yeah messing around and having some harmless fun would be ok but as for the sex im not interested whatsoever. But thats just me and my opinion. My husband doesn't pressure me to do it but he does bring the subject up quite often.. just wish he'd understand that the answer is always going to be no! I've had my share of fun and guys in the past..i want to be with the man i love and only him..why is that so hard to understand?

[ShareHer]

Originally posted by shortbus74
ShareHer....regardless of what you want.... it has to be a three way street...
I have done the two guys and one girl and I will say the aftermath of the action was not exactly good....
I was not forced into the situation but I did not feel "right" about it...
fantasies are great, but they lose their appeal when they become reality....

Shortie,

What do you mean three way street ... as in all 3 parties have to be willing? I'm willing and I've talked to lots of guys that would be willing. Now it's just a matter of finding the right time, the right circumstances and the right guy that would make my wife feel willing. Trust me, I'm not pushing her but she knows all too well that if and when she wants to try another man that I'm all for it.

[ShareHer]

Originally posted by hotgurl
Shareher,
After reading your post I got an idea. You said this guy still calls your wife? why don't you watch her have phone sex with him and maybe help it might make her more comfotable to have a liver performance.

Hottie,

That sounds like a really great idea on paper but her Boy Toy is actually a bit conservative and shy for phone sex and I don't think my wife is one to initiate it anyway.

She's starting back to work this week so I'm hoping that not being a stay at home mom all the time might get her interested.

I too would prefer a MFM 3some. I'm sure a FMF would be fun but I don't think my wife would be comfortable with it.

[hotgurl]

Yeah you have to make sure everyone is comfotable with it. My bf know I want a ffm and it does turn him on but he thinks the fallout will be messy and doesn't want to risk the relationship. So I have to repect him for that.

How about a webcam? Phone sex it so fun it is a shame they are not into it. it can be very liberating. you should just invite the guy up all go hot tubbing and have a glass of wine and see where the night goes.

Your wife doesn't want it, and no other woman does, as you can see from the responses. You want the best of both worlds, but this is one case where it is not possible. To be loyal and not to be loyal, to be married and remain single, in other words, to be sitting on two chairs. Judging by what you are saying, you love her, but you don't want her. You don't want her, unless you feel jealous, threatened, or challenged. But one woman can never provide you with these thrills, you have to choose, what's more important to you, exciting sex, or a stable relationship.
Another thing, that is strange, is that you claim not to be religious, but you are constantly implying, that sex is dirty, and that a woman is a whore. But that's what religious fanatics do. It's like you enjoy a forbidden fruit, but if it's not forbidden (and it's not), then you are not interested.
You have some sort of a split personality, your mind, heart and body don't function together in coordination. You cannot experience an act of lovemaking in its totality, when you melt into your partner with all your body, heart and soul. If you did, you wouldn't enjoy watching your wife like an object with another man.
Degrading her, because you hate yourself. That's a case of sado-masochism.

[youngwife25]

Hi Shareher,
my husband and I have done some crazy stuff (both together and before we were together) and he has a similar fantasy. It turns me on to think about a lot, and we have done some mild stuff (I've gone down on a guy in front of him, etc. and it was hot).
but sometimes when we're fantasizing he gets so into it, it seems obsessive and even masturbatory, like its not about me but about this idea in his head. which is fine for when he's on his own, but i feel like, since i am the one who is going to get ****ed (for real), i need to be the one who's initiating and enthusiastic. because if he is too much, i start feeling a little pressured, like there are expectations, like his fantasy is dominant and not our experience together. and that's not hot.
so i would say that the best way to get your wife into it is...pretend you're not so into it. she knows you like the idea, so I would say take the attitude of, sure you think it's a hot fantasy, but hey, who cares. it might not even be that great anyway. i can tell you that feeling like there are no expectations and no pressure on me to do anything makes me want to be a dirty girl much, much more.

[ShareHer]

Originally posted by Hilarious
Your wife doesn't want it, and no other woman does, as you can see from the responses.

Well, it's obvious you picked the perfect username for yourself!

I can appreciate the fact that you speak for all women throughout the world. How did you ever find time to poll all of them?

You want the best of both worlds, but this is one case where it is not possible. To be loyal and not to be loyal, to be married and remain single, in other words, to be sitting on two chairs.

I have to think that anyone that doesn't want the best of both worlds is setting their goals too low.

Judging by what you are saying, you love her, but you don't want her. You don't want her, unless you feel jealous, threatened, or challenged.

Oh my. I can only imagine how upset she will be when I call her today and let her know I don't want her.

But one woman can never provide you with these thrills, you have to choose, what's more important to you, exciting sex, or a stable relationship.

I must've skipped over the pages in the marriage reference manual that stated that exciting sex, as we know it, becomes non-existant when one says "I do".

Another thing, that is strange, is that you claim not to be religious, but you are constantly implying, that sex is dirty, and that a woman is a whore..

Let me get out my checklist ... ok, here it is ... I claimed to not be religious. Check. ...sex is dirty. Check. (I like it dirty sometimes) ... a woman is a whore. Check. (Sometimes it's fun to have her role play a whore. That reminds me, I forgot to pay her for last night.)

But that's what religious fanatics do. It's like you enjoy a forbidden fruit, but if it's not forbidden (and it's not), then you are not interested.

Oh, so now you're bashing the religious fanatics. I though bashing sexual deviates (like me) would be enough for you.

You have some sort of a split personality,

I resent that remark! And so do I! As do I!

...your mind, heart and body don't function together in coordination.

Now hold on there one minute Buster! My mind functions pretty well ... ummm, well sometimes. And my yearly checkup proved my heart is doing well. The body? Yeah, so what? It's getting saggy but what do you expect at my age? Ok, ok, so there IS that irritable bowel thing but so what?

You cannot experience an act of lovemaking in its totality, when you melt into your partner with all your body, heart and soul. If you did, you wouldn't enjoy watching your wife like an object with another man.
Degrading her, because you hate yourself. That's a case of sado-masochism.

Well thanks for your input. Please supply your mailing address so I can get the check for the analysis in the mail ... like I do with all my other shrinks!

Thanks for brightening my day!

[ShareHer]

Originally posted by youngwife25
Hi Shareher,
my husband and I have done some crazy stuff (both together and before we were together) and he has a similar fantasy. It turns me on to think about a lot, and we have done some mild stuff (I've gone down on a guy in front of him, etc. and it was hot).
but sometimes when we're fantasizing he gets so into it, it seems obsessive and even masturbatory, like its not about me but about this idea in his head. which is fine for when he's on his own, but i feel like, since i am the one who is going to get ****ed (for real), i need to be the one who's initiating and enthusiastic. because if he is too much, i start feeling a little pressured, like there are expectations, like his fantasy is dominant and not our experience together. and that's not hot.
so i would say that the best way to get your wife into it is...pretend you're not so into it. she knows you like the idea, so I would say take the attitude of, sure you think it's a hot fantasy, but hey, who cares. it might not even be that great anyway. i can tell you that feeling like there are no expectations and no pressure on me to do anything makes me want to be a dirty girl much, much more.

Hi youngwifie!

Wow. I may have to slip off and find a dark, quiet room here at work after reading your post! If going down on another guy is mild stuff, I can't wait to hear about the wild stuff! And who got hurt by you doing that? No one. Your husband was turned on by it, you seemed to like it and most likely, the guy on the receiving end was a happy camper. I'd say that was a Win-Win-Win proposition!

I realize that I have to make time for both sides of my sex life ... the naughty side and the romantic, loving side. I can separate them and I do. I wouldn't want to have to live without either of the sides. My wife knows I use some of her previous sexcapades as masturbation themes and also on occasion when we're having sex. But when we're having a romantic moment, that other stuff isn't in the picture.

I'd have a difficult time convincing my wife that I wasn't into watching her with another man. She knows me too well. I won't pressure her into it. For the time being, I'll continue to think about her and the other guy she had. If she does it again one day, that will be great. If she doesn't, I guess that's just the way it will be.

Keep me posted if you two have any additional mild/wild sessions.

[flavius]

Okay, I can relate to your fantasy. I don't know why, but it seems to be fairly common. But just because it's common doesn't make it a good idea.

I think fantasies are great. But I also think, almost by definition, they are things to be avoided in reality.

I think I can hear something pretty corrosive in your "voice", and that your relationship is headed for trouble. I also think you know it, but that you're pretty much willing to sacrifice your marriage just to see your girl in a dogpile of men.

Darn shame.

[redriding]

an ex boyfriend of mine wanted me to have sex wiht another guy infront of him. I contemplated it for a while ..but thought it would be too weird. On an emotional level i think that it might have caused alot of unforseen strain. Once its done the damge would have been done. I wasnt going to risk an emotional sabotage.