[calna]

i think i need to move this topic to the Breaking Up/Coping forum.

I don't like him.. im just wondering in general.. why does a guy go for a girl who is already taken? I've seen this happen so many times already.. It's like when a woman falls for a married man..

[UCFKevin]

It's a challenge, perhaps.

Or maybe they just think they can get no strings attached sex. They get booty, your boyfriend gets the relationship part.

Or maybe it's just stupidity.

I'll never go after a girl who's taken or has just broken up recently, former because I'll wonder if she leaves him for me, who's to say she won't leave me for someone else, and latter because no one's in the right frame of mind after a breakup.

[ziggue]

Hey at least you know you will always have a back up. . Well before this guy gets a girlfriend anyway.

[shortbus74]

It sounds like the current bf is not devoting attention that you want and you find this guys attention flattering.....

If the situation was reversed ..........would you like this done to you?




Just a thought...............

I meet a lot of guys where I work who are intrested in me....... I always tell them up front that I am engaged.............and that said........... I would like to feel that they like me as who I am.... I get their ### , call them to say hi and chat.... and I always introduce to the future husband..(NO HIDING).......and they call him ( makes me wonder if there is something I should know about ) I find it flattering that people do not see myself the way that I do.....

[calna]

I was reading this article on MSN and found a snippet that probably answers my question!!

People are attracted to attractive and engaging people. If you're out with a friend and not necessarily intent on meeting someone new, you're more likely to be relaxed and open because the pressure's off. You also appear "datable", which automatically makes you even more attractive.


People enjoy the thought of pursuing someone who's with someone else. Even when you're decidedly not with your friend, going out with someone who could be your date makes you even more alluring because there's a chance you could be verboten.