Anger and pain often go hand in hand. Let go of some anger, and you let go of some pain and hurt. Maybe for a while you feel like you are weaker and sad...but I reckon you have to work through ALL the emotions to get them out. Then you can really move on.
Love isn't just a young woman's game!
My mum experienced the love of her lifetime when she was about 55. She had never felt such intense love. Sadly, he became a born again Christian and left her to find himself in the church.
The point is, do not give up on love or your focus on healing. Please.
The point is this Merry....had I done that 3 months ago.....I wouldn't still be pissed off. I'd be all weak and wabbled kneed. I'd be an IDIOT. I'd be VULNERABLE! As it is......I REMEMBER.....
AHA! Someone is looking out for you because it didn't happen 3 months ago! You've had all that time to firm up your resolve. See!
My mum experienced the love of her lifetime when she was about 55
My dad met my stepmom then. This was his 'one'. It just took them a while to find each other. Fortunately for me!
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My mum experienced the love of her lifetime when she was about 55
My dad met my stepmom then. This was his 'one'. It just took them a while to find each other. Fortunately for me!
The love of my life is now 52. Maybe there's hope for me yet!
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I, Dave, hath chosen to also photo with long lense which protrudes from my camera of life force and shows falic symbol erected in direction of assembled love mass. .... but telephoto lense being hard and erect will attract many horny love-sturved babes to my shift before deadline and I will go into press room behind ink barrel to press lense into soft, velvet case and make love froever more. .....
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Actually, I found him 24 years ago.
Either I'm more patient than I could have possibly imagined, or that's what's using up my Patience Quotient so I really have none left for anything else!
Arabess - I'm so sorry you've had to go through this. Maybe you just need some type of closure to allow you to move on. But a love like that will take time to heal. Don't let this turn you off to love. It can and will happen again in the future. Just do a background check next time to make sure the dude's not married. It's a shame women have to go through such nonsense.
>>>For me to love again would make as much sense as eating ice cream on a diet. I would consider it self destructive....a slow suicide. Love is a young woman's game....... <<<
I think love changes as we get older. When we're young, we're so full of vigor and hormones that we can't see straight. It changes as we mature because we go through different stages in our lives. I think you can love someone again Arabess, but it won't be the same as it was when you were 21 and in that hot, steamy state we all get into. Not that you don't have sexual energy, but it's probably not quite as intense you're a more complex creature at this point in your life. You need someone who's going to suit your needs.
I'm sorry to hear you're hurting right now. All I can say is do what you can to make yourself feel better about the situation --whatever that is. Think long-term healing, whether its meeting him in person for one last time to tell him off or let him know the hell he's put you through or just not contacting him ever again --- do whatever it takes to help you get over what he's done. Screw his feelings, do it for yourself.
There must be a way to find closure without sacrificing more of you. If pride's in the way, weight it out with what you'd accomplish to find closure.
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