I think it would depend upon how much I still cared. If I couldn't trust myself to keep it light and non-hostile then I probably would not respond at all.
YEAH.....that would be so in character of me.....'light and non-hostile'!!!!
LOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!
Barbie once posted a SMALL extract from an email to this guy and it shocked the LS Forum to it's core
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I have too much pride....I'll gnaw off my fingers before I would call. That's the advice I give....and have now been called on it.
You see I know pride is part of who you are. If you need it to keep body and soul together so be it but otherwise it's not a very good reason for doing something. There may be other very good reasons for not contacting him. No one said anything about forgiving him.
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I just had to do something in the way of a post so Meanon wouldn't have to deal with this all alone....I can be QUITE pathetic!!!
Hey I didn't mind but glad you posted . You are NOT pathetic, this is pay back for all that wise advice you give others. We all need it sometimes.
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I also think sending my 36 point Word Document with the word 'F*CKERSH*T" is a little much
If this person meant a lot to me, I would be flattered that they contacted me. Afterall, I think it takes a lot of pride swallowing to to contact someone after a breakup especially if I knew I was the one to cause the breakup.
Arabess, only you can decide if you want to give a second chance or not.
If not, I would still be courteous. I would probably try to make him feel a little guilty as well.
Personally, I would tell him that it is nice to hear from him again. Tell him how great your life is going and how much you have grown after your spit. Maybe even throw in a "I've never been happier".
Then, I would say that I hope he is doing well. Wish him the best for the future and leave it at that.
But, since I don't know much about your situation or the relationship, a simple "get lost *********" may be more effective. I think you'll know what is best. You seem to give great advice to everyone else. Just trust your insincts.
Arabess, I'm not as familiar with the situation as others may be (able to read between the lines to figure out who this might be), but let's assume it is the most important man you've had a relationship with, and the father of your child.
While there is a group that is bent on never forgiving or forgetting, I'd have no choice but to at least consider forgiving.
I'm not saying it would "work."
I'm not saying it wouldn't be risky.
I'm certainly not saying it would be easy.
But I am saying it could be worth the risk.
On the other hand, if we assume the guy has had a less significant role in your life than the aforementioned, then I'd say, the hell with him, the risk could not possibly approach the reward.
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. You are NOT pathetic, this is pay back for all that wise advice you give others. We all need it sometimes.
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