The point is he's bi-sexual and still hangs on to girls
Hello.
The problem is he's bi-sexual and still tying to hang on to straight females!!! I know his problem may lying to his (now ex-girlfriend) but, that's besides the point. Like I said, AIDS is a very big issue and alot of people are contracting this disease straight, bi, homosexual whatever. He really needs to be real with himself. There was no excuse for his behavior none whatsoever and to be on there masturbating for another man is just plain sick and he needs to be wooped. LIKE I said he needs to be real with himself, if he's straight or gay, because I know one day he will wake up and dish girls altogether, and I am not taking back what I said. HE'S GAY!!!
Oh hey, by the way - I offered the wise words several times to him regarding that if he WAS hiding something from himself, it would be BETTER he just be true to himself instead.
I mean, I mentioned it oh so casually - like, "You know, if you really did like men, it would not be the end of the world for you. I would hope that you could admit it to yourself and to others, because life is short so why hide and deny yourself things when you can be happy instead " ?
I said things like that a few times.
I even once told him I knew him better than he knew himself and when he said -"I don't think that's possible", I said - OH YES IT IS.
God nows what else he was doing online that I don't know about.
It makes me doubt everything now but seeing as how he's "gotten over it" so quickly just enables me to do the same.
My Father and my sister don't believe it was infidelity, we get into debates over it and it pisses me off.
I guess it's all a matter of opinion but I think it's infidelity and I hope the next guy I'm with knows very little about chat rooms and all the crap that goes with them.
The audacity of him, to place an ad online just 2 weeks later.
I wish to God I could warn somebody.
He's a gorgeous man and we had an excellent sex life and I guess that was what blinded me. I did question that on many occasions. Oh well.
You and I both can find someone who doesn't chat and all of that stuff that disgusting sick dogs do online. I use my past relationship as a learning experience and have gone on with my life. Good ridance to that sick dog (and mines too.)
Originally posted by dyermaker
You can't get AIDS, or even HIV, from masturbating to men online.
You're dwelling on his sexual orientation, when it's a non-issue.
Dyermaker,
To whom are you speaking ?
I truly hope you are not speaking to me.
It was a certain someone else who said that and I'm sure she will explain what she meant but until then - why don't I just point out to the less than educated out there that NO, one cannot get AIDS or HIV from online sex.
As for the orientation subject, it WAS an issue for me. Perhaps not the best issue to fit under the subject line "Infidelity"...but it was an issue within an issue and some people were kind enough to give their advice when I asked for it.
I think what our P.L. meant was that the risk is high that online infidelity can turn into face to face infidelity - thus creating the potential for disease.
I was referring to people that's doing online dirt can end up meeting up together face to face to have sex and contract AIDS. I'm no dummy I know that people can't get AIDS by just talking or masturbating online. But, million of people meet up face to face everyday after having an online encounter. I know his issue is his infedilty, but just as well so is his sexual orientation, because he is misleading innocent people. (Example Already posting a profile on an online dating service to meet another girl. That's misleading, he needs to be upfront with these people that he goes both ways so they know what they are getting themselves into, that's why so many people ARE ending up with the transmission of AIDS and other STD's because so many people are not being upfront about who they are, and I'm not taking it back. I am not getting off the subject and I agree with the rest of yall that his infidelity was wrong as well, so don't misunderstand me, instead of trying to judge or criticize me, just ask me what's my point, so I can explain it to u. That's simple.
It's nothing to get frustrated about, because after all, not4me did what was best for her and I'm pretty sure it's not just dealing with the fact of his infidelity, but everything he did to her and that was my point to her.
No hard feelings though, because my opinion is my opinion and no one will ever change that.
And if u look at it, posting profiles to meet other girls and this person is bi-sexual or gives out bi-sexual hints about himself, does someway fit under infidelity, because suppose he meets some other girl (she's not unaware of his sexual habits or preference just as not4me was.) and she too discover the horrible thing that he done as well, so it's an issue, because he refuses to be straight up honest to straight girls, who don't deserve to be under the influence of his possible sexuality. I would be horrified to discover a man that I had been dating was having sex online or in person with another man, how sick Of course it would be sick by me finding out about all this and it would also be an issue of why he couldn't be upfront with me from the start about his preference. So that was my point. Take it or leave it. She asked for my advice and I gave her some, everybody on here have their own opinion about the topics discussed on here, and I will not criticize anyone for what they think or feel, because after all this is what this site is for am I right???
Last edited by pinklove; 19th April 2004 at 5:41 PM..
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and he needs to be wooped. LIKE I said he needs to be real with himself, if he's straight or gay, because I know one day he will wake up and dish girls altogether, and I am not taking back what I said. HE'S GAY!!!
You tell 'em PinkLove!!!!
Already posting a profile on an online dating service to meet another girl. That's misleading, he needs to be upfront with these people that he goes both ways so they know what they are getting themselves into, that's why so many people ARE ending up with the transmission of AIDS and other STD's because so many people are not being upfront about who they are, and I'm not taking it back. I am not getting off the subject and I agree with the rest of yall that his infidelity was wrong as well, so don't misunderstand me, instead of trying to judge or criticize me, just ask me what's my point, so I can explain it to u. That's simple.
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